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Re: Which jobs most often pair together among married couples

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Post by mensetmanusman »

oblio wrote: post #295
toyg wrote: post #270

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> I know there's 0% chance that my wife and I will get divorced You share this mindset with every divorced guy I know, including myself. Men just don't see it coming.

Men don't see it coming because they don't care. Quite frequently men are in bad relationships that don't affect them much but they generally don't walk away. Women pull the trigger when they can't take it anymore.

This could be the reasoning of someone with survival bias though.

Unfortunately, life can be complicated, e.g. family member went through undiagnosed schizophrenia for many years, one can imagine how that upset the marriage assumptions prior to the mental health issues.

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Post by Jensson »

medstrom wrote: post #343
Gareth321 wrote: post #332

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>In Sweden highly educated women are marrying down. It's certainly happening in Sweden, but it's far from common. An almost universal constant in research of this nature is that women highly value a partner who earns similarly or more than them.

Just a nitpick, but it doesn't matter what you value if you can't find it. Else the data would look quite different, e.g. all incels would be married. So what matters is what women find, not what they value.

> it doesn't matter what you value if you can't find it

Sure does, you just don't marry if you don't find anyone you want to marry. It is that simple.

For example, we can see that even in Sweden women who earn less are more likely to marry and men who earn more are more likely to marry. Women who earn a lot are less likely to find a partner they like as you say.

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Post by etripe »

goldenkey wrote: post #276
ausbah wrote: post #258

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is there? are the rates of queer people reddit in tech that much higher than other fields?

#15 on the list: https://blogs.lse.ac.uk/businessreview/2016/01/18/there-may-...

Interesting. Too bad it doesn't also provide specifics on bisexuals or the gender axis.

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Post by mensetmanusman »

aidenn0 wrote: post #248
xyzelement wrote: post #187

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> Unluckily, you cannot insure yourself against the immense risk of alimony payments if a divorce should happen. Of course you can. You can know thyself and know thy partner and have the maturity to understand what you're getting into, and the ability to commit despite that. EG: I know there's 0% chance that my wife and I will get divorced, not because marriage is so easy but because we're both people who are able to…

What if you were drafted, served in a war overseas and came back with severe PTSD? For my parents generation that was a real thing that caused a lot of divorces.

Think of the tens of millions of families who last their dad in ww1 and ww2. Even that is echoing through time, because their missing influence probably impacted their Children’s success and so on.

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Post by wisty »

globular-toast wrote: post #323
missedthecue wrote: post #110

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I think you'd see a lot of professions of people who culturally value a homemaker, not anything about the highest paying careers. My guess is that the list you describe would be dominated by the trades, trucking, and small business ownership.

Are there people who don't value a homemaker? You don't value good home-cooked food? A clean house? Clean clothes? Children clothed and fed? Everything else your mother did for you?

If an adult child said they want to stay home, cook for you and clean the house, and maybe look after younger siblings, most people would say they need to grow up and get a job.

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Post by sunir »

I find it interesting that teachers are high on the list for most professions but conversely teachers marry teachers and other education professionals almost exclusively.

Three possibilities..

There must be a lot of teachers. (Most likely)

They may be the most attractive profession. (Possibly)

…Or they all have secret second families at work. (I always suspected!) :)

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Post by mensetmanusman »

postsantum wrote: post #336
tiborsaas wrote: post #119

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It's a shame to marry because of financial incentives.

Why? Marriage has always been a financial/political thing. Love marriage is a recent invention

Depends on the culture. For example, Rome was converted (>50%) to Christianity in about two centuries due to the impact of opening Jewish family customs to the Gentiles (read: everyone not a Jew by blood) and a reformulation of what it means to love.

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Post by xutopia »

StillBored wrote: post #179

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

Where I work we have about 30% women on my team of devs.

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Post by Macha »

chrisseaton wrote: post #67
screye wrote: post #22

Many anecdotal guesses are validated by this data. Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts, but I see a few more too. Us programmers stick together. Quite a high rate of marrying within the community. Lawyers show a similarly high number. A criticism of the study, is that it does not normalize by how many of these professions are in the general population. So, it appears as though software analysts…

> it appears as though software analysts don't like intermarrying What happened to 'software analysts'? Is that even a career today? Sounds like something straight out of the 80s. Is it a 'product owner'? But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university.

From my viewpoint, the role got split. The technical responsibilities got pushed to an engineer's job with the architect role, the business responsibilities got pushed to the product manager role.

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Post by pjmlp »

StillBored wrote: post #179

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

Plenty of female devs on most places I have worked since the .COM wave.

If I am not mistaken, as per last results, most Informatics/Software Engineering degrees in Portugal have about 50% distribution between genders.

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