How does a baby boom only exist among women? I don't understand the headline
Remote work may have fueled a baby boom among U.S. women
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Maybe I just think we still live in the 90s, but when I was growing up, I know my mom babysat, and I remember one of the neighbors regularly watching us. Liability probably worked about the same way back then, but I don't think anyone ever really asked or thought about it. I doubt anyone was licensed if that even existed. If one of us got hurt, we'd probably get in trouble for doing something we weren't supposed to.…
> Maybe I just think we still live in the 90s, but when I was growing up, I know my mom babysat, and I remember one of the neighbors regularly watching us. Like a lot of things, informal, regular babysitting got ruined by a few people trying to hustle it into a business. This seems to be happening to everything that can be gig-ified: 1. People once did X informally for friends 2. Someone realized they could charge fo…
People have been babysitting for compensation for probably as long as humans have existed. If prostitution is the worlds first profession, this has to be the second or third. Step 5 has to be the only new step in this chain, if there is a new step to be found.
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Jesus this alone is enough to make me want to buy a Tesla.
You can buy any car in America using the Tesla model. Just call them, tell them you'll pay asking price (just like Tesla requires) and tell them you want it delivered to your house with the paperwork. I have done this countless times, even for people negotiating a discount.
Also, you can generally call any dealership and ask to speak to the internet sales / fleet department.
They're usually (at least at Ford) compensated on volume-moved-above-minimum, not profit-per-vehicle.
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#344It certainly revitalized the term "nooner"! Oh, and that weekly "all company" meeting where everyone is there but only the presenter camera is on?... you have no idea what is happening during the boring round of every team manager promoting the this or that which their team was up to.
I don't care a whit about rep or points...
Someone please explain to me why the downvotes so I can understand.
Is it some puritanical thing? I'm baffled.
Or is HN leaning toward the incel concept? If so, I would argue that nerds are especially well suited for pleasing mates. We live to understand systems and provide optimal solutions. So all we need do is find a partner and serve them. If that's your issue, be not dismayed.
My partner liked to do her work, boring documentation crap, while I did my work on her. It was fun for both of us, and it was certainly a new kind of thing which could not exist in the office space. No doubt, she did high quality work with some pauses. And I made the best of the opportunity.
Those of you downvoting, be real and explain your reasoning. Or fuck off.
Edited: too many typos :(... am I slipping?
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It's been amazing to me that developed countries have bemoaned birth rates... and then done nothing effective about it. You know what says "This country values parents who choose to have children?" Actual replacement of lost income potential and career progression. Yes, in the US there are tax credits, SNAP, etc. None of these even come close to replacing the life income changes. If we were serious about it, we'd hav…
> It's been amazing to me that developed countries have bemoaned birth rates... and then done nothing effective about it. I always thought a low birth rate was a net-good: Something all countries are striving for. Like when your country drops below 2 births per woman, it has "made it" into the ranks of Developed Countries. Lower birth rate means fewer bodies to feed and a smaller environmental footprint. Sure, I gues…
No country that I'm aware of (except maybe Norway and the Saudi's, because they have resource wealth?) fully funds future social welfare policies from present day revenue.
Consequently, future generations will always be paying for present day late life social support.
Because of this, negative population growth requires higher and higher present day tax burdens to continue paying equivalent benefits.
And population economics are not something you can paper over, because they're by definition on the order of your entire country's economic output.
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1. It was a handshake "come back tomorrow for the paperwork" deal with the manager. The underling who handed me the papers said they would never have agreed to the lower interest rate. I told her to go check with the manager. She did, and came back complaining that she'd have to redo the papers (!). 2. A "new" car doesn't have 5,000 miles on it. They told me it was new. There was no ambiguity there. They pushed the p…
1. I wouldn't call a miscommunication between a handshake deal with multiple people and departments involved and the next day the exact same as a "term sheet ruse" which implies there are games being played on the actual term sheet in front of you. I would say in many industries there are terms on the final documents that don't always exactly match what earlier communications, and yes it's important to make sure they…
I've had a statistically unusual amount of clerical errors after a deal is struck at car dealerships going from salesperson to the finance guy. I've politely corrected them each time and only once did I walk away because I "must be mistaken"
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#347We have had more parental leaves this year on my team then we have had in the last 5 years combined. Anecdotally confirmed
I had a lot of friends that got their first child during lockdown. Exactly 0 that already had a kid created another. Take that for what you want.
I had my first child in July 2020 and my second was born just two months ago. For someone who transitioned to partially work from home it's been a great time to be a parent IMO.
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UK is as expensive as it gets, but full time nursery(5 days a week) is "only" £800 a month for us. American costs seem to be completely absurd, despite much worse employment protections and benefits.
I pay "only" 10% more than the exchange rate adjusted amount you're paying. Top 5 US city. Don't take too much stock in the ridiculous numbers you hear. I've lived in podunc land, the suburbs, and major city and I always paid within 10% of what you're paying. £1200 in my top 5 city would get you a newly built daycare, with all the modern gizmos, a kitchen built "especially for young children", a teacher with 10+ yr e…
What is this top 5 US city?
Half decent infant daycare in SF/SEA/NYC/LA/DC suburbs is going to be minimum $1,700 per month, in the cheapest of those metro areas.
In tier 2 cities, I would question the quality for anything less than $1,300 per month.
And in no major US city would I enroll my child in a $1,000 per month or less daycare.
You can even back into the max teacher pay based on monthly daycare costs since you know how much staff is required, and knowing the living wage in some of these cities.
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> Raising children should be regarded as one of the most important things a woman can do because they’re the only ones that can do it. This seems pretty reductionist to me. Men can absolutely raise children. Husbands in heterosexual couples should absolutely be raising their children and not leaving the entire task of raising them to their wives. Gay men can also raise children. I don't think you meant to be disrespe…
If you're breastfeeding, it's gotta be the woman. And ideally, you are breastfeeding. Beyond that, most women strongly want to be with their babies. There was a NYT article a few years back about the boom of internet baby monitors, and it was kind of heartbreaking -- a bunch of women sitting at their desks glued to their baby monitors wishing they could be with their babies. I think we've really fucked up as a societ…
> I think we've really fucked up as a society when "women can have kids and be with them" is considered strange or a luxury
It has always been a luxury.
Unless they were wealthy enough to hire domestic servants or happened to participate in the postwar economic boom in the West that reduced the intensity of household domestic labor via household appliances, women of the past also got limited time with their children.
They were doing intense labor at home, in the fields, and as domestic servants for wealthier people. The same scenario happens today, as anyone who has hired in-home childcare knows.
Historically, precious few women could afford not to work, whether that work was compensated or not.
I agree that we should strive for an economic system that gives more parents more options to spend time raising their children, but we shouldn't couch that in faux-naturalistic ideals of what the situation was in the past.