Starting a business sorts the men with big balls from the boys and fakers. you lost. get over it and get a job. point is you tried and didn't have enough big balls to make it work. at least you now know what it really takes.
I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.
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#342"My friends make fun of me for making a retarded life decision."
there will always be people out there whom try to demean along the way.the reason being either they can't do that themselves so the easiest way out is to tell you to not go ahead so they will feel better. What's the risk for them in this instance? ZERO. Secretly praying hard you will not make it and take any action at all. Imagine how demotivating and powerful are those words just to make you not even start the journey.
Taking myself as an example,when I am in the process of building a new business from ground zero, the first thing these so call "friends" will say "why build this or that...blah blah..it's not possible" or "people will jump in and compete with you in the future" you get the drift. Despite all this, I pushed on and proved them its actually possible if we try hard enough, persistence is the key.
Push on,never say never,it's a tough and lonely journey as an entrepreneur especially by yourself, and I totally understand those very lows moments like yourself. It's only those who persevere through will look back after achieving the initial "impossible" and turning that into a possible.
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#343There have been so many insightful comments that are worth considering. For inspiration, take a look at Richard Branson. Despite having a poor academic record and having dropped out of HS, he figured out how to sell stuff that people wanted. I'd also suggest reading "Think and Grow Rich." It's an old book (1937); it's out of copyright, so you can find it free online. If you can get past the older English, you'll find that many people have been in your shoes and they've made remarkable contributions with their lives. You might also want to check out Ryan Blair. He turned his life around to the point where he could write the book, "Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain."
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#344Hi,
Let me be a bit blunt and tell you a few things.
1. You had parents to move back with to cater for your Lodging and Boarding 2. I dunno what you are doing as your career after quitting your job 3. You are in America, where getting gigs is no biggie 4. You ARE an idiot for being depressed and contemplating suicide.
I had to make a similar decision myself, I am in a remote town, in a country where getting gigs is really difficult, I have mortgages to pay and lifestyle to manage (my lifestyle was quite lavish since I had a high paying job) I do not have my parents here with me to move back into, though a lot of people I know have suggested that I do and move back to a different country where living is cheaper. To add to that, I have had to take medications etc for my stress levels and am still consulting a couple of doctors. However, what surprises me is WHY SUICIDE, I mean if that is what I wanted, then my High Paying job was doing a good job of taking my life away.
If your friends tell you what an idiot you are, remember they are NOT really your friends, they want to feel better by comparing themselves to you and probably were jealous of your pay.
I have managed over a year and a half on my own, believe me this is not easy... However, now things have started to pick up, I am being approached by people and they want me to provide my services to them (mainly development)
I used the time that I had to learn, skill and re-skill myself, I was used to being a Manager, getting people to do things, i did mainly all the high level stuff, but now I am back to being a code monkey, nothing wrong with it, other than the fact that I cannot focus on that, but since my skills are good, I can manage to catch up in terms of deadlines, etc
The other piece of information that you have not posted is how old are you? That will also determine, what you call a HIGH Paying job. Let me say that I have given up a 100K type job and gone through hell, and hope that the journey is nearly over.
For anyone that is contemplating, you need to know a few things,
1. Do not quit your job on the pretext that you might just make it lucky 2. Have a plan, I did not have the luxury of a plan, had to do it for health reasons and other personal reasons. 3. Build contacts, spread the word about your work, it will take a year or two before you get to see results, the Economy is slow it is not just you or your luck 4. At every stage project professionalism, meet people and discuss your services as if you are a flourishing business, this will instill confidence in you and also keep your mind off depression and feelings of being a loser. After all the ONLY person that can really call you a loser is YOU what any body else says does not matter...
If it helps, take up something in the meanwhile that could be anything that gets you going, I felt that I needed to not take up such temp employment and went on hard with self development instead.
Hope you can take something from this and work towards something positive and make it...
I have been a victim of office politics and went through the same...
Tim, Vic
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#345Earlier quoted context omitted.
One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are young (meaning, me , I made this mistake) is we think that if we don't become millionaires by 25 we are failures. That's bullshit fed to us by the media who claims only young people win in startups. I also second the 'get a job, any job'. Adversity is a part of life. Getting rich is hard, really, really fucking hard. Trust me, I went through suicidal depressions when I…
One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are young (meaning, me, I made this mistake) is we think that if we don't become millionaires by 25 we are failures. No shit, I am 36 and I am working on my fifth million! I gave up on the first four!
hahaha! that makes 2 of us. wait...I'm 47 working on my 10th.
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#346Wow. It looks like this post may be just the ticket out of your mess...this singular post has 322 comments! Go build an online community for all those who can relate and make tons of money - it appears you'll have an audience! BTW: it's all about the process. You think it's bad now b/c you're deep in it, but one day, when this has passed as all things do, you'll look back and realize you needed this experience for your future success to have occurred. ;)
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#347Great Sharing! After I first read this post, I shared to my friends. One of them, everytime he felt like quitting his job, he just open and read this post some times.
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#348Dude you are pretty lucky that you failed so hard so young. I know the climb up is going to be hard (depressing and humbling, actually) but now you know what failure feels like. Now you know what counts and whats bullshit.
Hang on man, keep on keeping on. Take it one day at a time, only place to go from here is up.
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#349So, here's my story; I tell it occasionally when stories like yours come up. I had no college experience, but did manage to jump right in to a good I.T. job while I was still in high school, and from there into an even better I.T. job in another state where I made more money than I knew what to do with. (I've never been good with money, and didn't understand what "savings" meant.) I worked there until suddenly one da…
> At one point, my expenses were literally: food, and gas for the car. And that was it. I had no bank account, I got my checks cashed at the grocery store How much were you paying to cash your checks at the grocery store? This is more expensive than depositing the check in a bank or credit union (I think it's on the level of payday loans, gouging lower income because they don't understand the relative size of the fee…
Knock it off, maybe. Find new friends? That seems silly. Grow a thicker skin and joke right back at them.
In times like these, you can barely hang on to your own skin.
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#350Earlier quoted context omitted.
"As part of that promotion, Allergan provided kickbacks to doctors in the form of cash, travel, and meals and held seminars instructing physicians on how to bill Medicare for off-label procedures. " http://www.fbi.gov/news/stories/2010/september/settlement-in...
If the FBI prosecutes for it, it doesn't really count. That's kind of like saying you can't eat at a restaurant because some chefs poison their customers. Sure, but it's illegal and not the typical state of affairs. I don't believe that kickbacks are common (I'll change my stance if evidence shows that they are wide-spread), even for on-label uses. I'm pretty sure they're still considered a serious ethics violation a…
I'm sure you're right.
A slightly different twist: a friend of mine is a pharmacist and he was decrying the end of free lunches provided by pharma companies after he finished first year (a few years ago). The influence of drug companies may exert is a recognized problem, even where it doesn't take the cash for prescription model (that I agree with you is probably illegal but I haven't looked into it). I do think it's likely though that there are creative ways out there that drug companies have come up with to encourage prescriptions.