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> Any movie that does well with critics or at a film festival has “a strong message” or “teaches us something”. If you find that every time you watch a film festival movie you are being lectured too, I think it has more to do with your wife's film choices, not the indie circuit. Nicolas Cage's Pig was a very well received movie at plenty of film festivals last year, and it's just about a chef searching for a pig.
Yes, I’m sure there is a movie here and there. Honestly, I don’t care enough to even compare the list anymore, that’s how we came up with the rule. Edit: and I think we’ll all try to forgive you for recommending anything with Nicholas Cage…
It's not here and there. Almost no art film lectures or has a strong message. It wouldn't be an art film if it did, in most cases, and art films are known for subtlety and conveying sophisticated emotion.