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Re: Nearly Half of Americans Are Lonely

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Post by mikestaub » Thu, Aug 09, 2018, 6:27 PM UTC

nkron wrote: post #329

mikestaub wrote: post #322

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I wanted this app as well so I decided to just build it myself. Feel free to sign up for the beta, I would love your feedback after launch: https://peapods.com Building a social network around local events seems obvious and honestly I am very surprised no one has executed it correctly yet. We have a plan for solving the chicken-and-egg problem by bootstrapping off of the existing event platforms.

I tried to sign up but couldn't get past the street sign captcha. I tried three times... Google is making it hard these days.

I'm sorry about that, I will investigate why this is happening. Feel free to email support@peapods.com, and we can add you manually to the list.

Re: Nearly Half of Americans Are Lonely

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Post by gwbas1c » Sat, Aug 11, 2018, 3:40 AM UTC

pastor_elm wrote: post #231

gwbas1c wrote: post #61

Honestly, I've never had problems talking to random strangers. Some of my best friends were random strangers at first. IMO, the problem has nothing to do with the internet. Instead, the problem has more to do with poorly controlling marketing and homelessness. Political correctness also takes a toll. When I lived in the Bay Area, most of the time I was randomly approached, "on the street," it was from a homeless pers…

>Even political correctness takes a toll. If I start talking with someone who has a different opinion than me, or is a difference race than me, faux pas get blown out of proportion You call it a 'faux pas,' others would call it casual racism or casual sexism, etc. Funny enough, when you point this out to a lot of people, they wind up being the ones to blow up about it.

If you think a difference of opinion is casual racism or sexism, you're inventing terms so you don't have to deal with opinions other than your own. It's your way of hiding from people who are different than you.

That's why they're called opinions. Everyone has them, and accepting someone else's opinion is an important part of living in a diverse world.

I'm an introvert, I didn't date much in college, and I can't begin to count the number of faux pas extrovts made towards me. I'd never accuse someone of being a casual racist, sexist, ect, because they're different than me. The world runs smoother when I accept that most people aren't perfect.

Re: Nearly Half of Americans Are Lonely

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Post by gwbas1c » Sat, Aug 11, 2018, 3:44 AM UTC

wenc wrote: post #105

gwbas1c wrote: post #61

Honestly, I've never had problems talking to random strangers. Some of my best friends were random strangers at first. IMO, the problem has nothing to do with the internet. Instead, the problem has more to do with poorly controlling marketing and homelessness. Political correctness also takes a toll. When I lived in the Bay Area, most of the time I was randomly approached, "on the street," it was from a homeless pers…

> Honestly, I've never had problems talking to random strangers. Did you grow up in a culture that prized that ability? I've noticed that in the U.S. south, being able to make conversation was a point of pride. ("friendliness") But not so much on the east coast. East coasters tend to be more clammed up and introverted.

I grew up in the Northeast.

Re: Nearly Half of Americans Are Lonely

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Post by s-shellfish » Wed, Aug 15, 2018, 11:35 PM UTC

jplayer01 wrote: post #301

s-shellfish wrote: post #268

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Most men aren't psychopaths, but a small fraction are. Perceiving all men as such even if there's a low chance of it actually happening...

If you're accused of harassment as a guy, that has huge negative social and career effects that are close to impossible to fight. Everybody turns against you and you're ostracized from your community. It's a big deal.

Of course it's a big deal. I never disagreed with that to begin with. Some people understand ostracism. That's why they don't do the things that cause ostracism.