Earlier quoted context omitted.
Usually people choose to stay in abusive situations because they don’t believe they’re being abused, or have convinced themselves they have no better option. That doesn’t change the fact the environment is still abusive. There’s a whole swaths of science and research behind this. It’s why domestic violence can continue for years unknown to anyone, even from friends, until it’s not. OP isn’t saying they’re being abuse…
> Usually people choose to stay in abusive situations because they don’t believe they’re being abused I simply asked OP to list the abuses they think the engineers are unaware of. > OP isn’t saying they’re being abused as a fact, OP literally said "It would feel amazing after this much abuse"
> they will _probably realize_ years later that they were abused.