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Re: My Parents Give Me $28k a Year

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Post by Inconel » Mon, Nov 05, 2018, 3:22 AM UTC

roymurdock wrote: post #307

Inconel wrote: post #210

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This is getting very hypothetical here, but I'll be glad to indulge your question. I'm unsure at this stage in my life whether I'll ever have the opportunity to have children of my own, but I would certainly like to. As I've spent some time in the foster care system, and seeing as it ended rather disastrously with me spending a good chunk of my HS years homeless, I'd very much like to get involved in being a foster p…

Thanks for responding. I come from a more privileged background with a lot of family support, so I can see the good (stability and guidance allows you to learn, socialize, grow, stay out of the death spiral of the penal/judicial system) and bad (overdependence on parents, growing up in a bubble, not learning lessons in a visceral/hard way that will stick with you, mistaking luck and hard work) from where I've come fr…

I apologize for not acknowledging your post earlier, I know it's not exactly within HN etiquette, but I just wanted to say thanks for such a thoughtful response.

Re: My Parents Give Me $28k a Year

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Post by LyndsySimon » Mon, Nov 05, 2018, 3:33 AM UTC

roymurdock wrote: post #319

LyndsySimon wrote: post #317

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I'm not the person to which you've replied, but I've had a similarly privileged young adulthood. I wasn't given $28k/year, but my parents have always been there for me, and have had the financial resources to help me significantly as an adult. I have two daughters, who are five and ten years old. I do not intend to pay for their higher education, and I don't intend to give them anything resembling a "stipend" when th…

Thanks for sharing your story. I agree with all of your sentiments. What was the turning point for you in deciding to put your life together (if there was one single moment or realization)? Was it getting married and having the responsibility for taking care of your new, young family? It must have been hard to dig out of depression in what probably seemed like a hopeless situation at the time.

Getting married helped cement things for me, but honestly, complete failure was never an option. It took me time to turn things around, and I failed over and over until I finally made it happen.

Re: My Parents Give Me $28k a Year

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Post by fao_ » Fri, Nov 09, 2018, 4:24 AM UTC

DoreenMichele wrote: post #78

soared wrote: post #69

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Your point becomes even more true when you think about kids who grew up with not enough or even unhealthy foods. Their brains didn't have the resources to develop, so they are hamstrung from the start. Even more true when you see poorer neighborhoods near polluting factories and industrial zones.

Yes, I would really like to do something to put in a floor, so to speak. Something to help mitigate conditions for the people who are the most burdened by current circumstances. Other people seem to think that's charity or a bleeding heart or something. I see it as just insurance to protect everyone so that stumbling doesn't ruin your life permanently with little to no hope of ever finding your way back to a comforta…

> Why not just, you know, not be so monstrously greedy and, instead, leave the world intact so you can have a better quality of life than that?

Because the entire system is built on greed. In capitalism, if you're not greedy, someone else will be, and you lose out.