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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by gamblor956 »

henrikschroder wrote: post #290
johnisgood wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends , unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

> unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this…

You can only have 9 Secret Crushes at a time.

Believe it or not, they actually have put some thought into their final product based on the beta tests conducted in smaller international markets.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by johnisgood »

henrikschroder wrote: post #290
johnisgood wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends , unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

> unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this…

Oh, of course. I mean, Facebook thrives by NOT keeping anything about its users from third parties.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by mogadsheu »

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

I think what they’re looking for is a way to get more consistent and precise user location data, via the Facebook app. It’s a relative missing piece in their user data suite.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by peterwwillis »

FillardMillmore wrote: post #94
magduf wrote: post #63

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>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. I haven't read the article, but I'm guessing this is probably a typical 2-way match algorithm, or else it really doesn't make sense. i.e., both friends have to put the other in their "secret crush" list for it to inform them that they have a crush on each other. What they really need i…

>What they really need is a "secret crush for FWB only" list: what if I have a friend that I'd be happy to be FWB with, but have zero interest in a serious relationship, but don't want to broach that topic with her for fear that it would mess up our friendship? This would be a perfect use for FB. Now there's an idea!

So just straight up ask the person "Have you ever thought about us hooking up?". If they don't want it, they'll just decline, and you can both get over it. Or they'll think you're a creep, and you won't be friends anymore, which is probably for the best seeing as you were harboring secret desires for this person.

Either way, being up-front and honest will have a better result than letting Facebook connect you because you were too scared to broach the subject.

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Post by rblion »

I wonder how this fares for Tinder and Bumble. People already use Instagram to 'source' potential mates. Now they can delete one more app off their phone, remember one fewer login.

Nobody I know uses Snapchat anymore because of Instagram stories.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by blackflame7000 »

dymk wrote: post #245
blackflame7000 wrote: post #125

Now facebook can really start to build a social credit score for everyone.

That's a cheap jab, care to elaborate?

It's not a jab, it's seeing someone for who they really are. Facebook hasn't suddenly decided to play cupid out of the goodness of their heart, they now have a system to effectively rank their user's social scores based on things like swipes and messages. Most of the Match.com apps do the same, but the scale of facebook puts most of them to shame. The fact is that they aren't offering a new way of dating, just a new way of gathering more valuable data on you. After all, who wants to waste time advertising to someone with no friends or influence when they can promote to the person getting swipes left and right.

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Post by vdfs »

jlg23 wrote: post #289
asdfman123 wrote: post #179

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…

> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. Indeed. I live in a muslim country and here everyone uses dual-sim phones with 2 sims for the sole purpose of having 2 accounts at everything: one for the conservative part of the family, another for the modern…

This is true for security reasons too, i don't want to give my 2FA number to anyone or any website that i will use only once in a while

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by Lammy »

asdfman123 wrote: post #179
estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…

> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone.

It's the other way around, in my experience, not a "goal" but a reflection of the people who built it. It made them absurdly rich, and all they know how to do is double down on what makes the numbers go up.

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Post by blackflame7000 »

rblion wrote: post #315

I wonder how this fares for Tinder and Bumble. People already use Instagram to 'source' potential mates. Now they can delete one more app off their phone, remember one fewer login. Nobody I know uses Snapchat anymore because of Instagram stories.

Which is why I can't for the life of me understand why people value companies like snapchat so highly when they are simply the current fad. Then you see oh they lost $20 Billion since their IPO and you wonder why people with that much money can't see what's clear as day to me. In 5 years, snapchat will be myspace, I'm willing to bet on it.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by JesseAldridge »

tyre wrote: post #100
msoad wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

How old is old? I'm 28 and would not use this because I don't trust Facebook. My little brother is 16 and I know he won't use this because no one he knows uses Facebook. I don't even think he has an account. They're all on Snapchat and IG. I was talking to him about this last week. They all think of Facebook as for a different generation. As stale. I feel similarly and know a lot of my circle does too. Except for eve…

> My little brother is 16 and I know he won't use this because no one he knows uses Facebook.

Is this really true? I heard from someone at Facebook that while teenagers say they don't use Facebook, if you look at the stats, they definitely do.

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