This is a very legitimate criticism of EVs.
I think people tolerate this feature of EVs largely because they are viewed as "green", unlike similarly-massive ICE vehicles.
Form factor also plays a role, which as the article here shows is not merely an aesthetic issue. A Model 3 is heavy but at least it has a low hood.
But you are probably right. Not only are they heavy, but, led by Tesla, EVs have put huge acceleration into the hands of untrained people, together with slightly-unfamiliar controls: Single-pedal interfaces without brake lights, touchscreens that don't clearly indicate when you're in reverse, etc. This combination is likely to cause fatalities.
Electric vehicles could provide fantastic local transportation, in the form of e-bikes, scooters, tuk-tuks, and small efficient vehicles like the Aptera. They could be cheaper than current ICE cars rather than (as they are) more expensive. But our infrastructure is not built for this -- probably trillions have been dumped into highways -- and they are incompatible with the current equilibrium on American roads, where large vehicles are a best response.
And fundamentally, the technology just doesn't permit the requisite ranges without large masses. And those ranges are required because of the way everything else has been built. So we're almost trapped by path dependence.