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Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by pratik661 »

cultofmetatron wrote: post #263
Mezzie wrote: post #232

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If you're gay, this is true. Especially if you don't live in a large city. I've just given up on finding a wife/partner. My options are just... bad.

if you're in north America, take heart that its not your fault! The American dating market is absolute garbage. I've been traveling around the world the last few years and have had no problems finding casual hookups and longer term relationships. I'm currently dating a beautiful Colombiana. I would have thought she was out of my league if I was still living in the US.

> if you're in north America, take heart that its not your fault! The American dating market is absolute garbage.

What do you mean?

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Post by sizzle »

bigwheeler wrote: post #129

I just lost my IG account after having it for literally a decade. Short story: I thought my engagement was low, so I manually went through my not-very-large follower list (2400 or so) in the IG app, identified about 100 accounts that I thought were bots (accounts that were following 6000+ people), and then went to each one and removed them as a follower. I made it about 40 in when suddenly I got meaningless errors, l…

Yup same thing happened to me but it was just because I accessed it with random vpn. No recourse whatsoever, can’t even get a list of all my friend’s accounts I lost access to

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Post by filmgirlcw »

sebastianconcpt wrote: post #180
sebastianconcpt wrote: post #137

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It's funny how raw red pill truths get downvoted here. Some seem to prefer to send technical brutal honesty about the current state of sexual market under the rug.

Or maybe people just don’t want to fuck you. And maybe you aren’t entitled to anyone fucking you.

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Post by sieabahlpark »

bragh wrote: post #292
sirwhinesalot wrote: post #272

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It's not just that, those flirting skills are not safe to use anymore. You can get an harassment charge for touching someone in the arm these days (happened to some lonely autistic kid). Having confirmation of mutual attraction first makes things both easier and safer.

I think that say what you will about the social media and the ills of it, Tinder is definitely a net positive for society. This is because matching on Tinder removes the ambiguity of attraction from the whole confusing dance of social interaction. So in the long run, when Tinder and its clones take over, there should be much less stories about unwanted sexual attention: either you make it on Tinder or you do not make…

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Post by jquery »

smsm42 wrote: post #284
015a wrote: post #170

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"Take their money and run" is one of those standard operating practices in big tech that I think obviously needs legislation to curb. Once you start looking, you see it everywhere; whether its movies on iTunes, books on Kindle, or costumes in Fortnite. If you break their ToS, they're allowed to cancel your account, without recourse, and take away all the content you purchased. Its especially egregious in gaming, wher…

What you don't seem to realize here is that various app stores, etc almost never sell you any content. They sell you a temporary revokable right to access content. It's like a movie theater ticket, with an added bonus of ushers being paranoid assholes that could kick you out any moment without a reason. You don't own the movie, you can just watch it, if you're lucky. If you think that service isn't worth the price -…

Really? When I buy a steam game, the big green button says “purchase”, not “receive a temporarily revocable right to access”.

It’s the digital age. My digital items are my possessions. This dichotomy in your head between the “real” and the “digital” doesn’t exist for the younger generation. There are few alternatives to these large tech companies. As I’ve gotten older I’ve wisened up and I buy DRM-free digital goods where possible (because of people who think like you, that big corporations need to be protected from the little people and not the other way around)… but before I got wise, I built up quite a large steam, Apple Books, and Kindle library (all of which call what we are doing “purchasing”… heads they win tails we lose).

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Post by nrmitchi »

mbg721 wrote: post #213
ravenstine wrote: post #199

This is pretty disturbing considering how necessary dating apps are today. Let's say you get banned from Tinder and consequently Bumble. What do you do now? You can create fake accounts, but they'll eventually find you. Coffee Meets Bagel? Plenty of Fish? Match.com? Don't make me laugh. It's already bad enough that women find it strange that a guy doesn't have an Instagram account (this has been my experience 90% of…

Is this what dating is really like?? It sounds completely alien and scary to me; I met my now-wife when we were in college, by talking and having meals together and stuff like that. And we're not ancient, we're in our 30s. There must still be ways to form meaningful relationships without being entirely at the mercy of the app gods,

It's kind of important to remember that the world, especially the social world of meeting new people, has *drastically* changed in the last 2 years.

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Post by mi100hael »

webdoodle wrote: post #139
999900000999 wrote: post #106

By far the best part is they didn't automatically cancel his subscription. What a horrible company, if you've banned my account that's fine but cancel the subscription and refund my money. If y'all haven't looked at it yet, read up on the FCC's filing against Match. They knowingly prompt up tons of fake profiles, to get you engaged. Horrifically this has lead to romance scams being the number one source of fraud in t…

To take it a step further, throw your phone away. I've been digital overseer/fear machine free for almost 2 years now, and can definitively say it's the best decision a person can make for their mental well being.

Says the person in the comments of HN...

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Post by cultofmetatron »

pratik661 wrote: post #301
cultofmetatron wrote: post #263

Earlier quoted context omitted.

if you're in north America, take heart that its not your fault! The American dating market is absolute garbage. I've been traveling around the world the last few years and have had no problems finding casual hookups and longer term relationships. I'm currently dating a beautiful Colombiana. I would have thought she was out of my league if I was still living in the US.

> if you're in north America, take heart that its not your fault! The American dating market is absolute garbage. What do you mean?

People can't handle truth and I'd rather not be downvoted to oblivion. Suffice to say, the american dating market is heavily geared towards attractive white men over 6 ft tall. They better also be a millionaire if you're in the bay area.

I'd suggest traveling like I have to southeast Asia, Europe and latin America for extended periods of time and see for yourself.

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