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My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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> "Now I really empathized with all the women who were victims of assault or rape." You interacted with a bad person or two and suddenly you're able to empathize with victims of assault and rape? What? Exactly how minimal is your understanding of those issues to equate them accordingly?

You're right, of course, but comments like these teach me only one thing: don't blog, write or talk about sexism. Someone will find one sentence that you wrote or said that's not OK and flame your ass about it.

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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> “Women are incapable of making the tough decisions necessary to run a profitable company on low margins.” - CEO of a Women’s Product Retailer Frankly, I think the CEO was pulling this guys leg and wanted to see how he reacted when his buttons are pushed. That is a situation that frequently occurs in customer meetings and you don't want your rep to blow up in the customer's face. That said, did you see the recent Sw…

> that proved women-run companies makes 15% less profit?

Correlation != Causation. What if women are more likely to start companies in fields where profit margins are lower?

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

The reverse exists, too, and I am pretty sure there are enough companies who want to hire women to give all women in IT sufficient choices. What do you suggest - should the CEO be imprisoned? Disallowed from doing business? Go to brainwashing camp to set his brain right? It's easy to get angry about such cases, but think about what you want to achieve. Perhaps he had some bad experiences with women. It's unfortunate,…

This may not be about changing that particular CEO's attitudes but about sharing the experience with the rest of us, so that we all may extract something out of it. It's a statement that "this happened" - we make of it what we will.

OK - why not. As I said, I am not surprised that jerks exist in the world. The way to deal with them is to not join their company.

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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You did the right thing, IMO. Silence is tacitly condoning the status quo. Be the change you want to see, and when you're in a relative position of power (like being able to turn down a job), do something.

> You did the right thing, IMO. Silence is tacitly condoning the status quo. But that is what the author did - he didn't confront the CEO, nor did he name the company.

He told the company it was a reason he wasn't accepting. After the fact, I think that's still laudable.

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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> “Women are incapable of making the tough decisions necessary to run a profitable company on low margins.” - CEO of a Women’s Product Retailer Frankly, I think the CEO was pulling this guys leg and wanted to see how he reacted when his buttons are pushed. That is a situation that frequently occurs in customer meetings and you don't want your rep to blow up in the customer's face. That said, did you see the recent Sw…

It's actually not that easy to distinguish "test" from "jerk/idiot" in an interview ...

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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I'm actually less surprised by the sexism than by the strange ranting behavior from a President during an interview. Even if the rant was about something less controversial, it's just bizarre. If that's normal behavior from the guy, I wonder how they ever recruit talent.

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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post #18

> "Now I really empathized with all the women who were victims of assault or rape." You interacted with a bad person or two and suddenly you're able to empathize with victims of assault and rape? What? Exactly how minimal is your understanding of those issues to equate them accordingly?

You're right, of course, but comments like these teach me only one thing: don't blog, write or talk about sexism. Someone will find one sentence that you wrote or said that's not OK and flame your ass about it.

And then you'll get super defensive about it and refuse to actually accept the useful feedback provided. Everyone loses!

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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> “Women are incapable of making the tough decisions necessary to run a profitable company on low margins.” - CEO of a Women’s Product Retailer Frankly, I think the CEO was pulling this guys leg and wanted to see how he reacted when his buttons are pushed. That is a situation that frequently occurs in customer meetings and you don't want your rep to blow up in the customer's face. That said, did you see the recent Sw…

Pretty funny, because "Google For Entrepreneurs" has spammed my G+ timeline all week with studies on women led companies making more money. Well actually not studies, just infographics making that claim. Glad to see some counterexample - I think it is always naive to assume "just put a woman on top and the company will do x% better/worse".

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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post #30
post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> you see the recent Swedish study of 125.000 companies that proved Just a minor nitpick, studies don't prove anything. Even experiments (in Physics) don't prove anything unless different people can reproduce them repeatedly. But (statistical) studies prove nothing at all, they merely hint at a correlation.

Minor nitpick of your minor nitpick: Statistical studies do measure something. The parent comment didn't claim the study proved causation, just correlation.

> that proved women-run companies makes 15% less profit

If this quote doesn't claim causation to the common person, then I don't know what does...

Re: My First Hand Experience With Sexism

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post #18

> "Now I really empathized with all the women who were victims of assault or rape." You interacted with a bad person or two and suddenly you're able to empathize with victims of assault and rape? What? Exactly how minimal is your understanding of those issues to equate them accordingly?

I didn't read that as the author actually claiming to have some understanding of what it was like to be assaulted, but rather that he gained an understanding of how people often blame women for their own assaults.
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