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Having a hard time getting over being not rich

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Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

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Hmmm. Given your financial situation I don't think your problem really has anything to do with 'not being rich'. It just sounds like you're depressed about something. Why not consider donating a portion to a charity? If anything it may absolve yourself of some responsibility regarding your cynical outlook? Be the change you seek :)

As we've all read here, past a certain level of security more money doesn't make you happier. You have more than enough money and savings for what passes as security in the US. My guess is that you're sad or depressed about one thing, but looking at the rich issue instead of whatever it is that's troubling you.

Fundamentally, as you can see from other comments, you don't seem to have an obvious reason for depression just from what you wrote, in fact you look like you have a pretty good situation. Yet you feel like you do, so there's likely something else going on.

You should make contact with a counselor or similar, and do some exploration as to what might be bothering you. Many times we don't know what's bothering us, we just feel bad. The result of counseling could be identification of some issue and how to address it, and additionally some idea of things you can do to make yourself feel good, independent of any issues.

Mental health is not just fixing what's broke. Promoting what's good is just as important.

You sound mentally unhealthy. You wouldn't hesitate to set a broken arm and put it in a cast. Go talk to a professional or two, and get yourself healthy.

EDIT: This should have been a reply to the OP. Weird that I put it here. Recalibrating brain ...

Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

#33
What makes you happy?

When I was in college if someone had offered to pay me $100k inflation adjusted for life to play with computers, coding, and networking, I would probably have signed in blood - even having has some success at consulting and with entrepreneur role models in my family.

So when I get frustrated at people or with circumstances, I find it helpful to remember enjoying reading books, playing with technology, teaching people and getting positive feedback, being part of productive teams, and the other firsts which were all new, novel, impressive, and profound at the time and now I just assume are the state of my universe.

Yes, there's a lot I don't enjoy about working at big companies, and ditto for smaller companies where you have to do more of things you don't like. But have less BS of others' making. But it's still awesome to be paid to do fundamentally fun stuff!

So anyway, just a thought - maybe try to find the things that make you happy and do them and embrace them and maybe suffer to work in a constraining day job which is still stuff you sort of enjoy, and tinker as a hobbyist to have your own space for pure fun? And who knows, companies are still being born that way...

Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

#34

You suck. Can I borrow $700 to pay a PR firm to promote my game? I'm hoping to get my kids off of welfare someday.

what's your game?

Hey, thanks for asking.

It's a minimalist implementation of the ancient count and capture game Oware.

http://luciangames.itch.io/oware

http://luciangames.com/oware

Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

#37
I honestly think you need friends. Or better friends. You have lost perspective a little bit but that is ok. You want change and do things differently and that is great. Just try to keep an open mind for new people in your life because I will tell you that I know a lot of people that is more fun to spend time with than random people at a casino. Find such people and you will feel like the richest person in the world.

Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

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post #2

Hmmm. Given your financial situation I don't think your problem really has anything to do with 'not being rich'. It just sounds like you're depressed about something. Why not consider donating a portion to a charity? If anything it may absolve yourself of some responsibility regarding your cynical outlook? Be the change you seek :)

It really has everything to do with not being rich. A million dollars is not rich. 100 million is. When you have a million, you make passive income of 60-70k per year. When you have 100 million, you make passive income of 7 million per year (but probably much more), which gives you almost 600k per month. You can do anything and you really don't care about saving money at this point, so you can spend all of it. As opp…

What part of the world do you live in? What parts of the world have you been to? What have you done outside of work?

Re: Having a hard time getting over being not rich

#40
Have a look at this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLdDMDkwK1s and maybe it will inspire you and you will understand that not everything is about the money. Fuck Mark Cuban, do you really want to be gambling 10 million dollars in Vegas when every day people are dying around the world? At the end is about how people will remember you and how you spent the money on crap you do not need. Rich doesn't mean that you will have a better life or you will be happier...it just a state of mind saying yeah I have the money to buy that expensive crap that I do not really need.
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