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Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by bradleyland » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:28 AM UTC

mmahemoff wrote: post #18

keyle wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The top button on iphone will mute the ringing and let it "ring out" as if you're away. I feel sneaky using it as opposed to declining the call, but Italy's best rule for warfare as always been "the best defense is to not be there".

It can be sneaky or considerate, depends when you use it. The problem with the abrupt "hanging up" button is it's binary like a car horn - there's no way to do it nicely. If you're in a meeting where you can't take the call, it's a gentle way to let the caller down.

I think you're confused about the function of the sleep button on the iPhone. When an iPhone is ringing, pressing the sleep button one time silences the ringing and vibration, but does not "hang up" the call. Pressing again, however, will "hang up" the call.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by MaysonL » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:30 AM UTC

aaronbrethorst wrote: post #2

"This is [because] I am always on offense and never defense." http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/my-phone/2013/03/dave-mori...

The poor guy's just so insecure that he thinks every phone call is an attack that he's too weak to defend against.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by ra88it » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:38 AM UTC

bradleyland wrote: post #31

mmahemoff wrote: post #18

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It can be sneaky or considerate, depends when you use it. The problem with the abrupt "hanging up" button is it's binary like a car horn - there's no way to do it nicely. If you're in a meeting where you can't take the call, it's a gentle way to let the caller down.

I think you're confused about the function of the sleep button on the iPhone. When an iPhone is ringing, pressing the sleep button one time silences the ringing and vibration, but does not "hang up" the call. Pressing again, however, will "hang up" the call.

No, he agrees with you. He thinks pretending like it rang and rang without you noticing it could be considered a considerate gesture under certain circumstances.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by gotrecruit » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:40 AM UTC

mmahemoff wrote: post #4

"And yet, I watched the call come in without touching my phone." Pro tip: Hit the volume rocker to mute the ringer without cancelling the call. Works on at least iOS and most Androids.

on many android phones, you can also simply flip the phone over to face down and it will stop ringing.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by WalterSear » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:41 AM UTC

sergiotapia wrote: post #9

This kind of sickens me, who treats their family like that?

The self-absorbed.

That was just a wordy introspection by someone marveling at her discovery of a new way to be inconsiderate to others.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by alan_cx » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:41 AM UTC

RDeckard wrote: post #12

a3voices wrote: post #3

I have a habit of doing this too, actually. Talking on the phone just feels too much like work.

Even when a relative calls?

Even more so...

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by WalterSear » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:43 AM UTC

gfodor wrote: post #24

aaronbrethorst wrote: post #2

"This is [because] I am always on offense and never defense." http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/my-phone/2013/03/dave-mori...

They need to re-make American Psycho but base it in SV, just so I can hear Christian Bale's inner monologue again saying ridiculous things like this (and everything else in that interview, for that matter.)

I was going to take issue with your unfair characterization of silicon valley and then I followed the link to that interview.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by [deleted] » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:49 AM UTC

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Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by TruthElixirX » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:53 AM UTC

Sounds like a developing anxiety complex. I know three people who started out like this and justified it in different ways, then going straight to no pretense, just hating the phone, then eventually a full blown anxiety disorder.

This was the first of a few symptoms.

Re: Why I Silence Calls Even When I'm Free

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Post by alan_cx » Sat, Oct 12, 2013, 4:56 AM UTC

Hmmmmm. A rant....

This might be culture, or just the people I know, but...

There seems to be an expectation that I'm supposed to respond immediately to any call or text, and if I don't, some how I'm an arse. I have a mobile, there for apparently I'm never possibly parted form it, have the instant ability to stop anything I might already be doing, and its damn rude not to answer with in 3 rings, or reply to a text the second I receive it.

As such, I have come to view my mobile as some sort of pocket Nazi, who insists I will do as told.

Well, no.

I didn't get a mobile phone so that others can dictate my life and it's schedule. So, no, I don't immediately pick up ever call or immediately respond to texts. I do so as and then I see fit. Obviously Im selective about it based on context, but there is no way Im going to allow that little pocket Nazi rule my life.

It really gets to me how I might be in the middle of something with another person, and any time their phone rings, what ever we are doing must be paused so they can take the call or respond to a text. Its like the phone has a priority over an actual person one might be with. Its just plain rude. I see it all over the place, and it appalls me.

Ahhhhhhhhhh HN therapy. :)