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Re: Why I email complete strangers

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A low-risk way to dip your toes in is to email a blogger to say that you enjoyed their post or that you found it helpful. The message doesn’t have to have useful information in it, just be sincere. Per OP, often there won’t be a reply but also often it’s much appreciated - particularly by non-mainstream writers.

I get dozens of cold emails and LI messages from sales/ recruiting a week. Only about one per year writes "I read your blog and liked your point about xyz." I always take that call. My LI (and HN) profile opens with my blog, so if they did 5 seconds of research they would find it.

I get those emails too but they’re always followed by “btw we sell so and so, do you got time for a demo?”

So when someone tells me they like my blog, i’m afraid to respond because they’ll just pitch me in response

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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post #2

A low-risk way to dip your toes in is to email a blogger to say that you enjoyed their post or that you found it helpful. The message doesn’t have to have useful information in it, just be sincere. Per OP, often there won’t be a reply but also often it’s much appreciated - particularly by non-mainstream writers.

I only have my email in my app, no social media or whatever. And received a lot of kind emails from users, issues they found, feature requests.

It is really something and I'm very grateful for their emails.

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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Even lower risk is to email hn@ycombinator.com with duplicate posts or other issues on this site! It helps, and it gets you a bit over the fear of emailing. ;)

dang just does NOT reply though. I don't know what his beef is?

He's replied to my emails before... /shrug

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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Their silence says nothing about your worth. They might be busy, taking a break from email, or not in a place where they can engage with new folk…who knows? And what does it matter?

Or it gets filtered as spam. very common

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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You can email anyone if there's something you need to communicate to them. Since when was it ever a big deal to email someone you don't know?

The last time I cold-emailed someone was back in 2021 when I had issues with uboot. Some software doesn't make it easy to file bug reports, and this one chap was working on the same board I had, so I felt like I had nothing else to lose. Thankfully they were nice, actually knew what the problem was, and had a fix in that same week.

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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> The first time I emailed a stranger, I swear my cursor hovered over Send for a full five minutes.

I would estimate communication is 95% non verbal and 5% verbal. The problem with online interaction is you are limited to this 5% while interacting with an almost infinite number of social groups and people.

Learning how to adapt to online socialization is learning how to adapt to being blind. Only you aren't blind, you are choosing to wear a blindfold.

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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post #2

A low-risk way to dip your toes in is to email a blogger to say that you enjoyed their post or that you found it helpful. The message doesn’t have to have useful information in it, just be sincere. Per OP, often there won’t be a reply but also often it’s much appreciated - particularly by non-mainstream writers.

I’ve been on the creator side with 1M+ followers and the amount of times someone has dropped a kind note like that can be counted on one hand. It’s such a breath of fresh air compared to the hate, criticizing and general unpleasantness that is so pervasive when dealing with online communities - even my own. As a result, I make it a point to send notes to anyone if I’ve enjoyed their work, because I know how much its…

I'd be curious to hear more; I assume you are distinguishing a positive note (email etc) from a positive comment?

Re: Why I email complete strangers

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I’m curious to hear about why talking to strangers is troublesome for you? For me maybe when I was younger but these days I just treat everyone like an old friend. What kind of pitfalls do you run into? Just a general sense of anxiety?

Tried writing a response multiple times and then ssl-3 nailed it with their comment and saved me. :)

hah.

Any time. ;)

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