> I have been trying to minimize to the extent possible the reach of big tech into my life
That's how integrated services on connected devices work; why the surprise? You can't both have a connected experience that works while also not connecting to hosted services that provide that functionality.
This isn't just Apple, anything that has any connected (cloud or anti-theft or otherwise) will need to function like this.
If your version of big tech is anything that provides managed services, you might as well get off the internet as it doesn't really provide that much value without it. That applies to basic services as well:
- Want email? Either go big or go home since you'll be attacked and spammed so much that unless you essentially learn to become an MSP for email for yourself it's not really feasible (and that includes all the GitHub projects we've seen on self-hosting; it's great as a one-off or hello-world demo, yet maintenance and knowledge is still required - time people aren't willing to invest)
- Want search engines? Extremely expensive to run, so you're going to consume one or not use one at all.
- Want to communicate with other people? They might use scary big tech and there is nothing you can do about it short of not communicating with other people (but that's antithetical to your wish to communicate with others).
- Want to communicate with business services? They might require you use known quantities such as specific operating system versions and configurations, certain apps, or they might not service you at all (banks, insurance, medical, transit etc.)
Can you apply a lot of time and energy to work around all of this? Possibly! But you end up not having much time left to do the things you actually wanted to do in your life. It essentially ends up similarly to what al_borland wrote: most large workflows and processes (regardless of governmental, for-profit businesses etc) don't want to make intensive exceptions just so 0.001% of their customers can be 'different', on one hand because it's not sustainable (you end up having one process for 99.99% of the users and many, just-as-expensive variations to that process for a bunch of individuals), on the other hand because it's not profitable (spending for one flavour and getting all the return on it vs. spending and getting practically no return on it).