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Why would you try to expose that information?
A news article? Tied to some public blog post? Where’s the exposure?
what value does it add to the discussion? besides preying on a private life
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So sleep tight kids… I think this is why religion is so important and I say that as someone who is incapable of believing in any.
Well since those two things are at odds and you haven’t explained your stance more, your comment effectively serves as flamebait.
No flaming intended. It’s pretty much just a joke about the existential dread that I (and presumably the GP) have built up over a lifetime. I presume it’s why we craft happy stories for children who we’ve deemed too young to learn about harsh realities. Alternatively, people find a lot of comfort in religion, but it’s not something that’s ever worked for me. So I like to joke about it.
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#33There's a really confusing gap between grief, or what I thought grief should look like, when losing someone close and the indifference or mere sympathy that comes with hearing about the loss of someone you don't know. A number of years ago I found out that someone I knew from university had died. He was young, and the whole thing was just so genuinely confusing that I didn't know how to feel about it. I'm in a simila…
I’ve come to the conclusion that what you feel is what you feel. There is no right or wrong.
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So sleep tight kids… I think this is why religion is so important and I say that as someone who is incapable of believing in any.
Well since those two things are at odds and you haven’t explained your stance more, your comment effectively serves as flamebait.
incapable of believing is different from refusing or being unwilling to believe.
even some of those who do believe in god sometimes have doubts, and here is someone who (i imagine) thinks that it would be nice if there was a god, but they just can't see how it could possibly be true, given many things they see in contradiction.
so no, wanting something to be true, but not being able to believe it to be true are not at odds at all.
in this context you may also consider pascal's wager.
the key is to keep searching for the truth, and to investigate the claims that various religions make until you find one that does work for you.
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So sleep tight kids… I think this is why religion is so important and I say that as someone who is incapable of believing in any.
Well since those two things are at odds and you haven’t explained your stance more, your comment effectively serves as flamebait.
Did you feel a visceral reaction when you saw the word religion? Maybe you should do some introspection.
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#36I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…
I have experienced a few deaths and think they have made me stronger, more mature, and wiser. One very recently that was completely unexpected.
My recommendation, take it or leave it, is don't speak the lie.
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#37There's a really confusing gap between grief, or what I thought grief should look like, when losing someone close and the indifference or mere sympathy that comes with hearing about the loss of someone you don't know. A number of years ago I found out that someone I knew from university had died. He was young, and the whole thing was just so genuinely confusing that I didn't know how to feel about it. I'm in a simila…
I’ve come to the conclusion that what you feel is what you feel. There is no right or wrong.
okay, fine.
what about introspection? What about what is considered mentally healthy or not? what about how it affects others around you? If you have past experiences or trauma or other orangic or inorganic neurological or mental issues having a "flat affect" can be "wrong". If what you're feeling isn't helping you, how would you know that there's another way unless you get help?
This sounds defeatist and if you peek just a little behind the curtain this can lead to all kinds of "bad". IMO.
Just imagine the worst thing you can that someone could think, and then they say "it's okay, it's just how i feel, it's not right or wrong." I get that we shouldn't gatekeep or police thought, but obviously this isn't some "universal truth"...
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I could search my heart to try to interpret your sarcastic comments in good-faith. Like, maybe you mean, "Surely, there should be a roughly linear relationship between the number of cars on the road and the number of unlawful traffic activities, and the decrease in driving in San Francisco was only X%, not 95%." To which I could say something like, "Hmm, yeah, that's a good point. Maybe less people run red lights if…
Considering the chart starts in 2014, I can understand the parent commenter having difficulty taking your Covid-19 argument in good faith. What data would you need to see to change your mind? PS: I went looking for data, and the number of traffic fatalities per year haven't gone up significantly since 2014. So I stand corrected. It's a big relief, as an SF resident; parent commenter's chart was really worrying. Phew…
traffic enforcement probably doesn't (strongly) correlate with traffic fatalities. One is a revenue generation stream, the other is just probabilities.
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#39Enforcement of traffic offenses is down 95% in the past 10 years in San Francisco. Explains the outcome and the claims that "crime is down" https://x.com/zachcoelius/status/1779373752905589221
While I can't comment on the stats, I do have a story. A long time ago I was working and living in SF. I had just finished work and was heading over to a nearby bar. I was waiting at a very busy intersection for the cross walk to signal to go. I had recently moved to SF and all my new friends warned me about cars, so I was being cautious. There was a guy standing in front of me with big headphones on looking at his p…
If it's any solace, I've had something very similar happen. An idiot was jogging near 4th and King, and a car jumped the light after the left turn was red and the walk lights came on. I had trained myself to wait and look, but he went on till I blocked him. He was annoyed at first (reasonable), saw the car go by, but never said sorry or thank you.
I never put on headphones till I was inside the train, as a rule of thumb.
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#40There's a really confusing gap between grief, or what I thought grief should look like, when losing someone close and the indifference or mere sympathy that comes with hearing about the loss of someone you don't know. A number of years ago I found out that someone I knew from university had died. He was young, and the whole thing was just so genuinely confusing that I didn't know how to feel about it. I'm in a simila…
Someone I met moving into a new co-working space died last week at work.
He was working the night shift at the front desk. We'd exchanged hellos and goodbyes a few times, and got to the stage where we recognised each other and would refine our greeting slightly at each repetition.
I figured we'd ended up chatting more and would get to know each other.
But then he had a heart attack.
I feel grief, in the sense that I no longer inhabit the universe where we got to know each other. There's a loss involved.
But I didn't actually know him.
I'm also more aware of the grief I'll feel in the future and I'm reminded how death can literally come at any moment.
It does feel like a strange liminal state, though.