Dude is 30 and thinks he is in a position to give out life advice... I'm 37 and nothing is figured out. Maybe wait another 30 years.
It’s more or less a collection of aphorisms that I would find in a book sitting on the back of my parents’ toilet.
Bits of Advice for 30 Years
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#32Dude is 30 and thinks he is in a position to give out life advice... I'm 37 and nothing is figured out. Maybe wait another 30 years.
I feel many people are more interesting in their 30s when they are still full of dreams and idealism than in their 50s after two marriages, a mortgage and a lot of hairloss.
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#33More accurate to say Smart people are curious - be curious. Helping other people succeed guarantees nothing for you - people can be selfish - especially in business Since romantic relationships are often an important aspect of one's life, I would also add: If you're interested in someone go talk to them.
You have to treat "Helping Other People Succeed" as iterated prisoners dilemma. The tit-for-tat strategy seems best in the real world. If you help and they defect, you have to defect in response. IE don't let them continue to take advantage of you. But you should cooperate first round.
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#34I think in my 20s, I intellectually knew every piece of good advice I would send back in time now that I'm in my mid 40s, because I'd read it on lists like these, or in books, movies, etc. The difference is that I could not put it into practice at the time, maybe because I lacked sufficient experience. For example, I've always known in theory that nobody is paying as much attention to what you think is most embarrass…
I'd liken it to feeling tired of feeling bad. After so many cycles of negative emotions at some point the brain gives up and embraces the thing it "knows" but hasn't internalized because it's the only way to escape to greener fields.
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#35Dude is 30 and thinks he is in a position to give out life advice... I'm 37 and nothing is figured out. Maybe wait another 30 years.
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#36> It’s only awkward if you make it awkward. Not completely true.. recognition of awkwardness also signals people that you're socially conscious to understand an action was not appropriate/good. The right thing to do in an awkward situation.. has no easy rules to write down really. > Keep a can-do mindset. > Don’t get discouraged because of existing work. Instead, try to find ways to put your own spin on it. > Always…
I can't help but roll my eyes at that line. It's cargo culting at its best. Good programmers do extra because they enjoy it. If a person does not enjoy programming chances are they don't do it enough to be exceptional at it, and forcing themselves to "do extra" will not help and could backfire.
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#37I'll be a bit adversarial in my own observation (as a 42 year old)
In my older experiences, people who'd climbed a mountain's worth of knowledge would be recognised. Nowadays, we tend to witness people climbing the mountain because the information is so freely available, and tbf, eminently marketable.
Tell me about it when you've reached the top.
There's plenty of us putting in the effort one way or another.
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#38Dude is 30 and thinks he is in a position to give out life advice... I'm 37 and nothing is figured out. Maybe wait another 30 years.
I feel many people are more interesting in their 30s when they are still full of dreams and idealism than in their 50s after two marriages, a mortgage and a lot of hairloss.
For some the hairloss comes in the 20s
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#39Advice is all about course-correction. Some people are too timid, others to arrogant. Some too impulsive, others too cautious. Some people should work harder, other people should be reminded there is more to life than work.
For any piece of good advice the opposite is also good advice, but for a different person! That’s what the author of this list doesn’t seem to get. Advice is about adjusting behavior in a specific direction, and that is very personal because the mistakes we make in life are personal.
Generic advice tends to have the opposite effect. It tends to confirm people’s biases. It makes people double-down on behavior that holds them back.
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#40all this is good advice but you need to be lucky to be surrounded by good people.
One day in a team meeting I spent 15 minutes trying to argue with 2 senior developers on why it didn't make sense to me how they had declared CSS "variables" like this --10px: 10px; and were using var(--10px) in various classes all over the CSS. Team manager was in the meeting, who was basically just sitting there and ignoring all the conversation.
I gave up and just approved the PR.