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Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by Dalewyn »

mgsk wrote: post #28
Dalewyn wrote: post #19

The article poses the situation as a problem, and I say "screw that noise" (pun intended) with my anecdote: I'm a man now in my mid-30s, and I cannot god damn wait until I'm old enough to be out of the "marriage market" so everyone stops fucking pestering me about marriage. I find absolutely no appeal in the concept. The legal and social risks of associating with women beyond friendships are simply not worth it. I al…

This has to be copypasta.

Naw, it's my sincere thoughts on the matter.

Everyone else can do as they please, of course. I don't care so long as you don't pester me to get married.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by francisofascii »

throwaway22032 wrote: post #3

Is this surprising? My intuition, backed by approximately 0 data, is that there's a 5 to 10 year age gap preference, such that men prefer to be with slightly younger women and women with slightly older men. As a result, young men don't really have a dating pool. Once they hit 30, as long as they're not total wasters, women will take more interest.

Worldwide, the average is 4.2 years. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36165033/#:~:text=Worldwide%....

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by ovi256 »

eimrine wrote: post #2

We need to produce less children, so that trend is perfectly good, isn't it? And the younger the woman the better, isn't that an obvious? What about friendship between men, this is your personal choice. I have more than one really close friend and I can not see myself without that kind of relationship.

We have a bunch a problem that could be solved by tech progress. Tech progress is pushed by more brains. More sticks in pop fertility's wheels reduce the number of brains available to work on said problems.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by anovikov »

nebukadnet wrote: post #22

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

Nothing surprising, yes this is mostly about top 10% of men dating several women each. Inequality in action.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by dsfyu404ed »

GalenErso wrote: post #11

A man who is financially autonomous, practices basic hygiene and grooming, wears tasteful clothing, and approaches women with respect and manners has nothing to worry about. You don't need to make 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to have the body of The Rock or 2004 Brad Pitt's face. Having one interesting hobby is also a huge plus, even if it's as simple as hiking or jogging. You just need to be minimally interesting.…

>A man who is financially autonomous, practices basic hygiene and grooming, wears tasteful clothing, and approaches women with respect and manners has nothing to worry about... one interesting hobby...

Congratulations, you've just described 95% of men who are gainfully employed in fairly technical white collar sectors of the economy.

You're getting down-voted because they are probably the single biggest demographic on HN and their experience doesn't match what your alleging it to be.

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Post by welshwelsh »

acidtakes1 wrote: post #12
eimrine wrote: post #2

We need to produce less children, so that trend is perfectly good, isn't it? And the younger the woman the better, isn't that an obvious? What about friendship between men, this is your personal choice. I have more than one really close friend and I can not see myself without that kind of relationship.

We do not need to produce less people.

Why do we need billions of humans?

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by thedanbob »

nebukadnet wrote: post #22

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

Those figures are for "young adults". (20s I think? The article isn't totally clear.) The article mentions further down that some of the extra women are dating older men.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by mschuster91 »

> “Guys are taught to prioritize career,” Karo said. “Also romantic relationships, although it doesn’t seem like they’re doing a very good job at that. Making friends and keeping friends seems to be a lower priority. And once guys get older, they suddenly realize they have no friends.”

Not surprising. Friendships take time to form, and many people have to deal with extreme working hours - a point I detailed yesterday in another thread.

[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34871192

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by v8xi »

nebukadnet wrote: post #22

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

The article states 60/30% of young people, so the correct interpretation is that older men are "taking" a large share of the young, single women / young women prefer dating older men.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by randomdata »

nebukadnet wrote: post #22

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

Could be that younger women are in relationships with older men and that older women are more likely to be single.
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