Only 2 genders listed though? Why does ever app/service like this make this assumption
The app measures more than 2 genders but there's not enough sample to draw any conclusions.
Gender and Age Differences in Love Styles and Attitudes
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#32All things considered, I was expecting there to be much higher gap between genders and ages. At only one point is there more than a 10% difference. In my experience men and women claim entirely different wants and needs.
There is. Massively so. https://www.reddit.com/r/TinderData/ Basically this just tells me that people lie on personality tests, or they interpret questions differently. Behaviorism is the only science in psychology. Question answering should be considered a behavior, and not a reflection of internal characteristics. In that light, you essentially have, among men mostly, a behavior, direct presentation of mating inten…
I don't think Tinder is any more an accurate way to evaluate how people love than this study.
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#33While far from a good study, nor a good analysis of the data, it does introduce some aspects to think about in terms of what one wants in a relationship. For example, the PopSci phenomenon of Love Languages is not exactly the most scientifically valid measure; but it still has utility in making people in a relationship become more aware in how to listen and more effectively communicate with a partner. [1]
While the study does present the love languages. The section about “love attitudes” seems like it could have similar utility for understanding what one wants in a relationship. Providing some ideas to introspect with about one aims to feel and/or express in a relationship. I'm wondering if anybody here has any good resources on the topic? Since the site and study seems to keep mum on that topic.
[1] https://www.mic.com/life/do-love-languages-actually-matter-p...
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#34Is there even a consensus that love languages are a valid concept? I ask because it's hard to see how falsifiable the idea is, reading about love languages seems highly "westernized" when love is a universal feeling not bound by culture. How do love languages apply to women in Saudi Arabia or Papua New Guinea? What about subsistence farming communities in Africa? What about native tribes in Brazil or Colombia? IDK, l…
The term "validity" is thrown around a lot but there's no universal measure of psychometric validity. In simple terms, something is valid if it's predictive of something else that is useful (usually a behavior or another construct). There's plenty of studies that investigate the validity of love languages around things like marital satisfaction etc. More importantly, for the purposes of this study which is just based around self-reported preferences (and not psychometric properties), validity doesn't really matter. Reliability does, and there are is plenty of research around the reliability of these scales.
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#35Is there even a consensus that love languages are a valid concept? I ask because it's hard to see how falsifiable the idea is, reading about love languages seems highly "westernized" when love is a universal feeling not bound by culture. How do love languages apply to women in Saudi Arabia or Papua New Guinea? What about subsistence farming communities in Africa? What about native tribes in Brazil or Colombia? IDK, l…
It's generally used as a starting point for discussing relationship needs. I put this under the flawed but useful category. Although it's really just another way to label yourself to others.
I don't see it as harmful but I'm sure we'll see more about it in the future as it has grown in popularity. Every woman in their 20s/30s I talk to has at one time mentioned it to me which was not the case until about 2 years ago.
I'm sure different cultures will have different ways of expressing affection thus leading to a different set of "Love Languages".
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#36No wonder that a website based around personality testing that describes the author's INTP score would uncritically engage with the ideas of love languages and attitudes - former of which is based on the anecdotal observations of a priest and was never well-validated by science
I think love languages are good tool for getting on the same page 1:1 with a partner, but they're only marginally more useful than horoscopes. Things like "my partner really appreciates if I've got my arm around them while watching a movie" or "my partner appreciates if I get a pot of coffee going while they're in the shower" are good things to establish, and love languages are a good lens to establish them. But so m…
Although neither is scientific, as a framework for talking about relationships, love languages are far better than horoscopes because love languages are purely personal preferences and horoscopes are random based on birth date.
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#37What is missing here is a study of the desire to be alone.
I thought I had that desire most of my life and recently figured out that was far more about my major anxiety to be able to provide quality "service" (as the article calls it) in all relationships, from casual conversation to romantic. Obviously, there are still times I want to be alone, but I'm more aware if it's due to anxiety and try to deal with that feeling if it is. That's just what I figured out for myself, no…
That's a useful realization. I have come to similar realization for myself in recent years. In case it is useful to others who might see this, I have found it useful to explore this dynamic in myself through the framework of avoidant attachment styles. There are some helpful resources and supportive communities available online for people wanting to find happier/healthier ways of navigating their attachment style. In particular there are a couple of avoidance focused subreddits that I've found supportive and they keep a list of links to other resources that many find helpful.
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#38Apple Users only. Responses are not necessarily indicative of how the respondents will actually behave in real life.
Honestly I find most studies based solely on self-reported data worthless.
What people say they’ll do/buy is often only loosely correlated with what actually happens.
See:
-YouTube thumbnail controversy, vs what people actually click on
-/r/apple and other comment section’s obsession with the commercially-failed mini lineup of iPhones
-everyone says ads don’t work on them, but ads work
I could go on
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#39Only 2 genders listed though? Why does ever app/service like this make this assumption
They haven't made this assumption, they've explicitly stated there was not sufficient data but acknowledged that other people not covered by the survey exist.
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#40All things considered, I was expecting there to be much higher gap between genders and ages. At only one point is there more than a 10% difference. In my experience men and women claim entirely different wants and needs.
The differences between men and women are usually not as dramatic as standup comedy and television make them out to be. The differences aren't dramatic, but they are statistically significant.
Right the point is that overall they are more the same than they are different.