It is possible to ssh in for about 2 seconds before the kernel panic so I solved it by doing this:
while true; do ssh sudo mv /usr/bin/containerd /usr/bin/containerd.backup ; sleep 1; done
On the next reboot i was able to ssh in and change to the (then just released within the past hour) kernel that doesn't have this stupid bug. After another reboot you can move containderd back and it should be working again
affected: linux-image-5.13.0-1028 not affected: >linux-image-5.13.0-1029