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Start planning 5 or 10 years out; do things now that open opportunity later.
Build a reliable social network around you. Help others with no expectation of return. Reconnect with old friends and strengthen bonds with new friends.
Get and keep your body in great health; form good habits now. Fix your posture. Stretch.
In your 30s, if you are waiting to have kids for various reasons, you really need to stop delaying. Your probability of successfully having kids goes down every year, and by your early 40s your options for medical help if you have infertility stop being available because even those interventions lose effectiveness. If you want kids, just have the kids. You're not going to care that you were being responsible and wait…
Kids from much older parents (40+) are also almost completely weird.
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…
What inspired you to join it?
Second, I'll throw some things out there, though, apart from what's already been said (like health and travel): - Invest in therapy, if you haven't already. Learn your blind spots, your rackets, and your stories that hold you back.
- Make new friends with younger people, whether it's via mentorship or some other means. If you don't, you'll be an "out of touch boomer" before you know it.
Unlike my 20s, I feel like I navigated my 30s pretty well, so I don't have a lot of things I wish I had done/known that I didn't already. I think that's really the difference as you get older...you developer fewer new regrets.
People matter, even if you're an introvert. Make friends. Don't be a jerk to people.
How you dress matters, even if you think it doesn't (or shouldn't). You don't have to "dress to impress", but don't look like a slob.
Develop empathy. Don't be so focused on getting your code to work, or your hobbies, or whatever, that you don't notice when people are in pain.
Get married, have children, buy assets. There's this idea that men don't need to settle down because they can have children at any age, which I guess is technically true but it presupposes that a 30 y/o woman will want to have children with you when you're 45, but they are more inclined to go +5 years, not +15. Also take prescription labels more seriously, like don't take Advil all the time, because you will get an u…
I think you mean tylenol / acetaminophen (maybe aspirin is bad too?)
Even if you can find a younger mate, you'll want to participate in your kid's lives and that's much harder as an old man. If your kids are teenagers and you're in your sixties, I imagine it can be tough; and if they make the same choices as you, living to see grandchildren is unlikely
Thankful to have found an occupation where every day brings some new and interesting problem to solve.
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…