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I realize this isn't exactly Hacker News, but sharing the source of my inspiration brings me more comfort than just about anything I've ever posted here. She was the perfect mother for an introverted, achievement-oriented nerd trying to find his way in the world. Thanks for letting me share. [UPDATE: Thank you all for your kind words. It really means a lot to me.]
These two are my favorites: ---- When others said, "We need a time-out," or "This is a teaching moment," she just looked at you in such a way that you knew that there would never be a worse feeling than disappointing her.
When you played a song on the piano and she didn't recognize it, she said, "For this we need lessons? Go practice some more!"
Welcome to the very unfortunate club of those of us who have lost a parent. It will always hurt, and it never goes away, but you do come to be at peace with it over time.
I am really thinking about you and this wonderful tribute you've written for your lovely mother right now. You've done something beautiful and she is so proud of you.
My advice at this time is to fully allow yourself to mourn. It's OK. Only you can experience your mourning and it may be the same or it may be different from how other people experience it, but just remember that only you can experience your mourning in the way you need to.
And that is totally cool because you are a beautiful piece of your Mom that is here right now.
Plus... Betty would've wanted it that way.
My sorrows are with you / Marc
I realize this isn't exactly Hacker News, but sharing the source of my inspiration brings me more comfort than just about anything I've ever posted here. She was the perfect mother for an introverted, achievement-oriented nerd trying to find his way in the world. Thanks for letting me share. [UPDATE: Thank you all for your kind words. It really means a lot to me.]
hey Ed, I just woke up to your email. First of all my condolences to you This stuff really hits where it hurts. The 'behind every great man' quote more often than not refers to a mom rather than a spouse and I think it is beautiful of you that you wrote this and I hope that those who don't think this is 'hacker news' can keep their hands of their mouse buttons. To all of you wondering how many pomodoros worth of prod…
I actually never thought about this until you just said it. I always put it to the spouse not the mom.
It's sad that kids aren't raised like this anymore. In our day you didn't get the trophy unless you deserved the trophy. Now kids get a trophy just for showing up and everyone is special.