I feel you and hug back. To me, celebrations and gatherings were always more stressful and awkward rather than fun and something to look forward to, but at least I got to see what friends and family I had. After moving cities, the only people who I talk to eye to eye are coworkers and service personnel, state holidays became extra weekends.
Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
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#32Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
Dang! That’s tough! How are you coping? You good?
I'll be lying if I tell that I'm good.
In 2022 I'll study to become a programmer.
Focus on algorithms, data structures, and try to learn math (I'm very math illiterate, I don't know anything beyond basic arithmetic).
So at least by this time next year I'll have more knowledge.
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#33I'm an immigrant living in the UK by myself and it is not even in my homeland tradition to celebrate Christmas. So today will just be a regular Saturday for me!
happy dec 25th coffee in the morning feeling!
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#34Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
I think if you're posting this to HN, you want to talk to someone about all of this.
I happen to like hearing about your life, so please feel free to DM me any time. https://twitter.com/theshawwn
Happy to just listen. No advice.
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#35Dubliners are welcome to join our get together tonight, shoot me an email!
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#36All alone here too.
Truth be told, it would take some effort to trust someone enough to spend it with them now. I can thank my own family (back when I considered them family) for that.
Now I just make my own dinner, play some video games, and chill out. Took a fair few years to get there though.
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#37My take on this is that the stigma of being alone is based on false premises. All it takes is to prioritize other things a little bit like your work, your side projects, your own beliefs, or even self-respect, over social efforts.
Another aspect I will put out there is that often these days the people we have the most in common with are just on the internet and not physically nearby. I think it's quite wrong to think that online interactions aren't meaningful.
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#38XMass is just an artificially distinctive day designed to sell more stuff to people. Why do guys even care about being or not being alone?
Christmas is ancient. As long as there has been winter, people have had a festival during its deepest depths, to remind them that the spring will come.
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#39Same. I plan to sleep in today (haven't even gone to bed yet, still up from the 24th). I finished up watching Doctor Who: Flux a little while ago, about to head to bed, and when I get up later today after sleeping for a while I'm just going to go fish for a bit, come back home, cook, and spend the rest of the day vegging out and watching Netflix, Prime, whatever, maybe do some reading, yadda yadda. My family all live…
Netflix had some recent stuff zi recommend: The Witcher (new season), Don't Look Up, and Arcane.
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#40Same here, my plan for today is JWST launch, junk food, video games (I got into Battle Brothers, it keeps kicking my ass) and possibly a video call with family later today. Enjoy your December 25th people!