> Adding a timestamp to each message is an easy way for consumers to discard any out-of-order messages. Not correct, but it's very easy to think timestamps will solve this. Timestamps aren't good because system times aren't synced across different computers precisely. Meaning if Producer A creates the first event, and Producer B creates a second event 50ms after (imagine a single row gets updated very quickly twice),…
Sequence numbering is how FIX does it. And I think its quite neat that it does this at a _protocol_ level. This means that a FIX client/engine will typically take care of sequence numbering, out-of-order detection (can happen during re-send requests), buffering any ahead-of-time messages, requesting gapfills, etc. It will only present your application layer code with in-order messages.
I'm not aware of any universal pattern for dealing with poison pill messages. Completeness detection and dealing with messages that crash your system are 2 separate concerns.