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Very superficial advice. I don't see how small-talk with strangers can fix loneliness long term.
> Simply put, be casual, not creepy, and read the room.
this line gave me a chuckle at least. pretty sure this is the actual root of the problem for many lonely people.
here's my guide to making friends:
1. have good social skills.
2. talk to people.
Loneliness comes from a lack of community and people who you can trust. You will not build a community and find people who you can trust through small talk and involving yourself in groups that are based on transient interests that can be changed in an instant. There is a reason gangs and groups have some sort of hazing and acceptance ceremony.
Loneliness comes from a lack of community and people who you can trust. You will not build a community and find people who you can trust through small talk and involving yourself in groups that are based on transient interests that can be changed in an instant. There is a reason gangs and groups have some sort of hazing and acceptance ceremony.
Vulnerability is not required. Communication is stripped of almost all of its context, and is often asynchronous. There is little expectation of any sort of real commitment. People are easily muted, unfollowed, and blocked.
In sanitizing away the messiness of real relationships, we’re left with an empty shell that puts us more in control and yet also more lonely. It would seem that we cannot simply pick and choose which aspects of relationships we want, nor can we relate to others at the scale that social media enables us to.
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Paywall for mostly unpaid or underpaid content creators
In Medium's defense, the idea is that, if you want to go ad-free while still being able to pay content creators anything at all, you need some other revenue source, and, as far as I can tell, the only other option that's seen any success at scale is paywalls. There's a pretty direct in, in one breath, complaining about paying for authors' work, and also complaining that authors don't get paid enough for their work. (…
Loneliness comes from a lack of community and people who you can trust. You will not build a community and find people who you can trust through small talk and involving yourself in groups that are based on transient interests that can be changed in an instant. There is a reason gangs and groups have some sort of hazing and acceptance ceremony.
Very superficial advice. I don't see how small-talk with strangers can fix loneliness long term.
That's how virtually every friendship starts, isn't it?
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Paywall for mostly unpaid or underpaid content creators
In Medium's defense, the idea is that, if you want to go ad-free while still being able to pay content creators anything at all, you need some other revenue source, and, as far as I can tell, the only other option that's seen any success at scale is paywalls. There's a pretty direct in, in one breath, complaining about paying for authors' work, and also complaining that authors don't get paid enough for their work. (…
It isn't a solution to the problem, at best, it is a bandaid. I don't like it, but I don't want it banned. I wish I could think of something realistic and better, but can't.
At least panhandlers don't have a platform eating some large percentage of the take.
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In Medium's defense, the idea is that, if you want to go ad-free while still being able to pay content creators anything at all, you need some other revenue source, and, as far as I can tell, the only other option that's seen any success at scale is paywalls. There's a pretty direct in, in one breath, complaining about paying for authors' work, and also complaining that authors don't get paid enough for their work. (…
When there’s a link to an ad-funded site, HN complains. When it’s to a paywalled site, HN complains.