Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex? • Hacker News Board

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by brailsafe » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:41 PM UTC

jimmaswell wrote: post #5

PebblesHD wrote: post #2

While I don’t specifically fall into this category, I’d like to broaden it to younger men starting families. The reason my partner and I haven’t moved toward doing so is primarily economic, we still can’t afford a house and rental laws here mean we could be kicked out at quite short notice. We don’t want to bring a child into an environment that we aren’t even able to keep stable for ourselves. Others we know are in…

Poverty is usually associated with increased unwanted pregnancy (which must have come from sex) though.

While I've been aware of this for some time, it just occurred to me that unwanted children would actually cause more poverty, and any effort to prevent mitigation of that actually distributes more suffering.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by mxschumacher » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:41 PM UTC

staticman2 wrote: post #11

jimmaswell wrote: post #3

I'm betting on dating sites and the internet in general. Our evolutionary biology is for the women to only get pregnant by the fittest available male in the "tribe" because it's such an investment in time and resources (also why men are inclined to go around with whoever they can, it's all benefit and no cost to "dine and dash"), and now the "tribe" we percieve is artifically extended with the fittest possible specim…

You have some odd ideas there. You might want to read The Moral Animal by Robert Wright for a more nuanced view of human nature by an evolutionary psychologist. (A field which is controversial at the best of times- but if you're going to believe something controversial but possibly true you can do a lot better than what you posted here) If I wasn't on my phone i'd type more, but in brief you have a weird idea of what…

The original statement isn't about women in general but the dynamics on dating apps for people under 30. I think we can agree that Tinder and others are more focused on physical attributes than the ability to finance and support the raising of children

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by yosito » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:43 PM UTC

It would be really interesting to see how 2020 and 2021 affected the number of people for every age group who reported no sex in the past year. I'm in my 30s and due to the pandemic I'm currently in the longest voluntary period of abstinence that I've ever had.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by satyrnein » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:43 PM UTC

adflux wrote: post #6

Fewer men are having sex with about an equal amount of women. So there are a few men who statistically have the most sex and then the rest barely gets any. Tinder and the like very heavily favor attractive men. Then there's a whole bunch (like in my compsci major) who don't even talk to women on a daily basis... https://m.imgur.com/L9Vu4Zo graphs like this dont inspire hope either and serve to support my previous poi…

Don't be discouraged by that graph; Okcupid also described how looks matter much more to men than women when it comes to actually sending messages.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by osacial » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:43 PM UTC

adflux wrote: post #6

Fewer men are having sex with about an equal amount of women. So there are a few men who statistically have the most sex and then the rest barely gets any. Tinder and the like very heavily favor attractive men. Then there's a whole bunch (like in my compsci major) who don't even talk to women on a daily basis... https://m.imgur.com/L9Vu4Zo graphs like this dont inspire hope either and serve to support my previous poi…

What's with this idea, that all women are constantly having sex with somebody? And that they all want to share their partner so easily...

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by jsisto » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:44 PM UTC

what about smaller dating pool due to obesity

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by ericmcer » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:45 PM UTC

staticman2 wrote: post #11

jimmaswell wrote: post #3

I'm betting on dating sites and the internet in general. Our evolutionary biology is for the women to only get pregnant by the fittest available male in the "tribe" because it's such an investment in time and resources (also why men are inclined to go around with whoever they can, it's all benefit and no cost to "dine and dash"), and now the "tribe" we percieve is artifically extended with the fittest possible specim…

You have some odd ideas there. You might want to read The Moral Animal by Robert Wright for a more nuanced view of human nature by an evolutionary psychologist. (A field which is controversial at the best of times- but if you're going to believe something controversial but possibly true you can do a lot better than what you posted here) If I wasn't on my phone i'd type more, but in brief you have a weird idea of what…

How do you convey that via 6 pictures and ~100 words. Also “convince a woman to mate with him because he will help her with the kids”...

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by [deleted] » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:45 PM UTC

staticman2 wrote: post #29

adflux wrote: post #6

Fewer men are having sex with about an equal amount of women. So there are a few men who statistically have the most sex and then the rest barely gets any. Tinder and the like very heavily favor attractive men. Then there's a whole bunch (like in my compsci major) who don't even talk to women on a daily basis... https://m.imgur.com/L9Vu4Zo graphs like this dont inspire hope either and serve to support my previous poi…

But women generally don't want to be part of harems. If they want something besides sex, they pretty much need to stop sharing a small group of attractive guys and start settling down with the less attractive guys. Perhaps tinder is not the place to find a guy for settling down.

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Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by float4 » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:49 PM UTC

throwawayA666 wrote: post #28

I find women to be too shallow. But I don't feel anger towards women or feel upset about it, rather I devote my life to the things I enjoy doing.

You should probably meet more/different women then. Or at the very least you should know that there are many women who are not shallow.

The funny thing is that there are both:

- communities of men who think women are shallow (they spend all their time on instagram, they only care about their looks and about how wealthy and good looking their partner is);

- communities of women who think men are shallow (they only want to fuck, they don't care about you at all, they spend more time on their cars than on their girlfriends).

Both communities are wrong.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by rafaelvasco » Tue, Mar 23, 2021, 10:52 PM UTC

throwawayA666 wrote: post #28

I find women to be too shallow. But I don't feel anger towards women or feel upset about it, rather I devote my life to the things I enjoy doing.

I kinda understand you. Most women don't interest me as well. It takes more than a hot body and a pretty face. It takes a hot mind and/or a warm heart for me. Contrast this with most of my friends. They're all easily satisfied. If the girl is dumb and hot, they're game.