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A good example is having kids; kids decreases happiness but increases satisfaction.
I often inquire 'why is happiness the thing we choose to focus on'
I have concerns about following advice people write about how to be happy. Why are they doing it? Is it because they are happy, and they want to spread it? If so, is it like a rich person writing on how to become rich? Maybe they tell you X,Y,Z that they think were important in becoming rich, but it was actually A,B,C that they were blind to. The worse alternative is if it is someone who was unhappy, and then did som…
The advices given in the article ring true to me, so it really felt like reading something I already "know" but just don't practice often enough. I find it useful to be reminded.
I think these are bad tips to be honest. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - really? People in countries where psychotherapy is not as prevalent as in the US aren't necessarily unhappier I think. Some occupations have earned their bad reputation. My opinion. I am not happy with it, but generally quite happy I believe. I don't feel too happy about changing my prejudice towards this field. Appreciation of what you have is…
I’d encourage you to reconsider the article in context of the fact that CBT can be self-taught with no books or sessions - all of this advice is free, and each tip works independently of the others. I do agree that open-ended talk therapy seems like a waste of time.
Must watch Experiments on Happiness - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EnPHxXKtpk
Happiness is not an ideal. Happiness is tepid water on the tongue. -- Holderlin Man does not desire happiness. Only the Englishman does. -- Nietzsche
The author does not cite research about about how "tedious hippies" make people sad, nor demographic evidence that California is "full of" them.
There is an amazing course on happiness from Yale: https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being
So if you ask people if they’d be happier living in California or the Midwest, most people say California. Actually the regions have comparable life satisfaction, but people say California because they think of the weather and fail to take account of other things, such as the fact that California is full of tedious hippies. The author does not cite research about about how "tedious hippies" make people sad, nor demog…
I have long regarded happiness in the same category as grace: it is an undeserved and unasked for free gift. An epiphenomena that is not a consequence of, but happens along with, other positive actions. And for me that's living a less self-centered life. I am happy when what I do with my life enriches the lives of others. But being transactional about this ruins the game. It is, among other things, the opposite of ze…