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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by hammock »

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

>men are at a significant disadvantage

Datings apps aren't men vs women, where a woman wins and a man loses (or vice versa). Any real life connection that gets made is mutual. So what you mean is MOST or SOME men are at a disadvantage, and then you must ask which ones and why.

>One idea I've had is to disallow conversation in the app, and instead focus on making date plans if there's a match

Why not just do this yourself? It's not a bad strategy for a guy. Why does making this a rule forced on others do anything?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by Someone1234 »

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

> One idea I've had is to disallow conversation in the app, and instead focus on making date plans if there's a match.

You should likely run this idea past a few women. The typical reason they want to converse before meeting is security: Meeting strangers is dangerous and they want to "sniff test" to see if it is safe enough to even go that far.

Your app idea largely seems to exist to solve issues men have with dating apps but it doesn't really address why women avoid them/prefer direct social interaction.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by logfromblammo »

brenden2 wrote: post #14
tqkxzugoaupvwqr wrote: post #12

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Interesting idea. First issue that I thought of: People will create fake profiles to rake in all the money from admirers. Or, if the profiles are genuine, the app quickly becomes a cam/chat site because why would you ever go on a date if you could get paid for just being there and chatting with admirers.

It's relatively easy to prevent fake profiles by requiring basic identity checks (phone number, etc).

Nothing is easy when more money can be made by claiming it is difficult.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by vbtemp »

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg).

The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that would go down to zero. This would hopefully solve the problem of women getting hundreds of messages a day, and men getting neither any incoming messages nor any replies to their outgoing messages.

It shouldn't be much of a problem to get women on board, as they rarely send messages anyway and it would always be free just to put up a profile and receive messages. And for men it would hopefully be a fair an transparent way to have confidence that their outgoing messages would be received and read (and have fewer immediate competitors), rather than just lost in the noise.

I don't have time for it now, but it's always been something on my mind.

Edit: Thanks for your comments. This is interesting. Lots of hypotheses worth experimenting.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by cft »

brenden2 wrote: post #22
mc32 wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Payment going to message recipient is going to create perverse incentives and people are going to monetize this aspect. So you’ll have many frustrated users who are simply being gamed for messages.

I'm not convinced that's a bad thing if that's the type of interaction people want.

But it will select a certain type of people

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by chroem- »

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really need some antitrust action in this space.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by LoSboccacc »

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

> the payment goes to the recipient

doesn't sound like a dating app, more like "uber for escorts"

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by zifnab06 »

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

For the payment aspect, charge $5 then refund it once both people say they’ve met?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by tantalor »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

Can I buy options on sending a message in the future, and then sell those options on a derivative market?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by zeroonetwothree »

fluxic wrote: post #9

Looking back on the 2010s app wave, it's hard to think of any other app (including FB, Uber, and Airbnb) who have had a bigger cultural impact than Tinder.

Tinder had no effect on a large percent of the population. So your estimation of the cultural impact is skewed by your personal experience.
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