This woman is an anti-feminist nutjob, I can't believe she'll still writing opinion pieces for the Atlantic...
If you seriously want to defend a practice where two people do the same thing and then one of them is declared the victim and the other the perpetrator, based on either gender or whoever complains first, then you are the nutjob.
And it has been here before, in all shapes and sizes. Its the social skill superiors equivalent of facism.