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In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by MK999 »

throw92841 wrote: post #3

The classical explanation for this is that men are attracted to fertility while women are attracted to status. I really doubt any self respecting 30 year old woman with a great job is going to find, say, a highschool jock attractive. The appearance of being with someone like that does not do her brand any favors in her social context. She's out of his league. This is probably a little (a lot) reductionist but it prov…

isnt it true that women are attracted to power and status and men attracted to beauty?

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Post by b0rsuk »

gbarc888 wrote: post #20

What a quote! "women are like cheese, they get blue veins and start to stink." Older women (even ones with children) can be just as beautiful as younger ones. Not with an attitude like that, though.

It doesn't help working out is perceived as something manly, and many women appear to think it's beneath them. Women under 30 are used to the fact they can have attention with zero working out. They use make-up instead, but it can carry you only so far if you get flabby and overweight.

The phrase "Like lipstick o na pig" might be rude, but it didn't come from nowhere.

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by personlurking »

throw92841 wrote: post #3

The classical explanation for this is that men are attracted to fertility while women are attracted to status. I really doubt any self respecting 30 year old woman with a great job is going to find, say, a highschool jock attractive. The appearance of being with someone like that does not do her brand any favors in her social context. She's out of his league. This is probably a little (a lot) reductionist but it prov…

Well, they don't specify what "attraction" means here. If older men are attracted to 20-yr old minds, then I'm the Easter bunny.

I'm in my mid-30s and I'd be hard pressed to move more than 5 years in either direction (younger or older).

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Post by empath75 »

SomeStupidPoint wrote: post #28
burntrelish1273 wrote: post #19

There's "dating" for sex and dating to get married. People in the former mode are pickier, and the latter are more nuanced. PS: Ben Franklin's advice. Older chicks whom are in-shape are animal, bad bitches in the sack.

Good ol' Ben "In the Dark, All Cats Are Gray" Franklin. Apparently, that phrase actually dates back to at least 1550 -- https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/all_cats_are_grey_in_the_dark Which suddenly has me curious on the history of advice on how to get "bad bitches" -- is there some grand human tradition I've failed to learn the major milestones of? (Like fart jokes which are ~4k years old or advertisements which are ~6…

The oldest recorded joke is a fart joke— "Something which has never occurred since time immemorial; a young woman did not fart in her husband's lap."

https://m.theregister.co.uk/2008/08/01/oldest_joke/

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by agumonkey »

jopsen wrote: post #30
agumonkey wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't really agree with that. I lost my love for youth but that's because I found someone that kept my most innocent feelings lively. I'm sure that when men end up dating far younger women, it's partly for cheap fun, and partly to relive dear feelings they're missing.

statistics doesn't always apply on a personal level, it's statistics :)

I know, we know. But I'm talking because I rarely see this. Also I believe I have a limit case life.

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Post by michaelgrafl »

nils-m-holm wrote: post #27

Only n=1 and I guess I'm an outlier, but: I can get attracted to a wide range of physical appearances (including age) if the person is empathic and/or intelligent. However, I never get attracted to someone who lacks those attributes, no matter how physically attractive they might be. In fact I find the combination of being physically attractive but cold and or dumb even a bit repulsive.

Me too. Me too man.

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by Iv »

iUsedToCode wrote: post #21

You cannot cheat biology with feminism or education. Some things are impossible to change overnight, regardless of the social pressure or guilt. Men are attracted to fit, young females. Maybe because women in the past tended to pick not the youngest but the most powerful (in this particular social circle?). Thus humans learned that both parties are ok with age difference. It seems a bit gross, a 70yo with a 25yo girl…

> Men are attracted to fit, young females

Until they open their mouths. Seriously. I have seen 10/10 bodies lose all advantage in one sentence. I have seen ugly women that after a few minutes talking with I would spend the night with without problem.

You fantasize about perfect bodies until you get to fuck one. Then you realize sensuality is something else altogether.

And once you reach 35, you realize how sexy it is for a girl to be financially independent...

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by belorn »

A bit surprised that the article don't mention what the OKCupid blog wrote, which is that age is not a good statistical predictor for what man a woman will date. It is however an excellent predictor for men.

What is an excellent predictor for what man a woman will date, according to the OKCupid data, is income of the man statistically anchored to the income of the woman. This produce a very similar looking graph to this article, where the older the woman the more income she has and the more income she is looking in a man.

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