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> They think in their head I'm left wondering why this would be a problem.
Not being able to successfully and clearly communicate their thought process about a simple problem one-on-one is a bad signal for being able to communicate clearly about a difficult problem in a group setting or being a useful sounding board for technical ideas.
I don't have any source but from my experience mathematical/computer minded people are more likely to be introverted/talk less then arts people.