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Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by asxd »

sillysaurusx wrote: post #34
abzug wrote: post #20

Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.

I think if you're posting this to HN, you want to talk to someone about all of this. I happen to like hearing about your life, so please feel free to DM me any time. https://twitter.com/theshawwn Happy to just listen. No advice.

It's amazing how helpful it can be to have a sounding board. This is a very nice gesture.

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Post by uniclaude »

rvnx wrote: post #149
uniclaude wrote: post #132

I vividly remember coding, moderating IRC channels and playing StarCraft while being alone on a Christmas night, lobbies were full of joy and wishes, games were fun, and I felt way less lonely than while spending time with people I didn’t really connect with. Christmas is seen as a moment to be spent with people, but IMO this day is only what you make of it. It is not bad to want to be totally alone, or connected wit…

This Metaverse / NFT thing is depressing, I wouldn't recommend this. If you are alone, better take the "celebrations" as an opportunity to discover people that are a little bit of your usual circle by inviting them for a dinner or movie. The COVID-19 makes more people lonely, and actually, it's a positive thing for people who are usually alone because it makes it easier for them to live with the social stigma of bein…

I didn’t mean metaverse/nft, HN is a virtual world.

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Post by mancerayder »

We live in a time that, even before covid, there are a record number of single people in their 30's and 40's (in the U.S. and some Western European countries I am assuming as well), and to go one step further, a record number with no interest in having kids (or some fear that's keeping them). [1]

We live in a different times. Many are alone.

1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202009...

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Post by ColinWright »

weaksauce wrote: post #286
ColinWright wrote: post #281

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If something is a good idea, don't put it off. I don't understand people who make New Year resolutions and wait until the New Year to do them. If it's a good idea ... start now!

I want to add to this... i set a goal a while back of doing the equivalent point in duolingo every day of like 2 or 3 lessons. that didn't work in the long term and the streak went away and i lost the motivation to keep "stubbing my toe" so to speak every few days. I changed it to 1 lesson a day and the streak is almost 700 days in a row now and there is usually some motivation to do an extra few lessons or not once…

What I've started this week is this:

* One each of push-up, sit-up, burpee, star jump, squat, and run up and down the stairs;

* Every week, increase by 1.

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Post by trevorishere »

ragingrobot wrote: post #280
trevorishere wrote: post #114

This Christmas is significantly different for me. Normally it would be filled with friends and family, but not this year. I succeeded in hiking >10 miles yesterday and today, legs willing, I'll be at least spending part of the day in the PacNW forests to keep the depression at bay. JWST was my Christmas present. I'm happy to see we've got final separation and the last view of the telescope. If anything, it's the best…

> I'll be at least spending part of the day in the PacNW forests to keep the depression at bay. Enjoy some of it for me. I will get out there, someday... I keep saying it, before I visit any foreign country, I'm spending some time in the PacNW.

You _must_ spend some time here. While I'm partial due to being born here, there is so much beauty in nature in any direction you choose to travel on the west side of the Cascades! You could spend years here and not see everything. I'm starting to explore more and more on my own and it is just a wonderland everywhere I go.

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Post by trevorishere »

zeusk wrote: post #118
trevorishere wrote: post #114

This Christmas is significantly different for me. Normally it would be filled with friends and family, but not this year. I succeeded in hiking >10 miles yesterday and today, legs willing, I'll be at least spending part of the day in the PacNW forests to keep the depression at bay. JWST was my Christmas present. I'm happy to see we've got final separation and the last view of the telescope. If anything, it's the best…

aren't there snow storms out here in PacNW? do you have a blog where you document your journey through the forests?

And here's Marckworth State Forest today.

https://ibb.co/gFNNhC4

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Post by verst »

TedDoesntTalk wrote: post #200
swat535 wrote: post #195

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I was exactly in your situation 2 years ago (at the start of COVID) and I know what you're going through. I'm not going to tell you to "stay strong" , emotions are a natural thing and should not be suppressed and it's ok to be vulnerable. However, there are a few things that helped me get through the dark times, I am writing them below in the hopes that you may find them useful: 1. Exercise, this is absolutely critic…

I went from a completely sedentary desk life to running a half-marathon in 7 months (includes a 1 month groin injury). On a treadmill, training myself. You can do it, too, and the effect on mood is spectacular. In fact the effect on mood comes way before a half-marathon. So don’t get overwhelmed and think you have to do that much.

I'll add that virtually all running groups you find on Facebook or Meetup are very welcoming of new runners of all experience and ability levels. Having the regular schedule of a running group helps a lot with keeping up the regular exercise, especially when the weather gets questionable.

Running groups seem intimidating to everyone - even reasonably fast amateur runners. Once you go however you will find you will meet lots of interesting people all working to stay healthy or challenge their own personal goals. It's absolutely not a competitive environment.

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Post by mrich »

markdjacobsen wrote: post #231
abzug wrote: post #20

Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I went through a dark night of the soul a few years ago amidst some professional setbacks. More recently, I've been on the edge of losing my 17-year marriage; we are still exploring whether reconciliation is possible. The vulnerability, honesty, and goodwill in threads like this always warms my heart and bolsters my faith in humanity. I'll offer my own contribution. I wrote a deep…

thanks for the book, very kind of you. it is rated 4.9/5 stars in Amazon too!

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Post by johnisgood »

pkdpic wrote: post #269

This is a great post and a reminder that HN is a great platform / community. It also seems like a reminder that the internet really does have the power to bring people together in meaningful substantive ways. Especially when there are still social platforms that allow for clear minimally augmented communication between individuals. Thank you for the inspiring post and thank you HN for an inspiring year!

I do not intend to ruin the mood, but these kind of posts are available on Facebook as well (there are A LOT of them), but we would not call that a great platform. :P
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