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Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Re: Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Post by coldtea »

paulryanrogers wrote: post #165
coldtea wrote: post #114

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> That's the thing. On a bike you can do everything right and still lose. Same with anything in life. Same with a car, just less so. Of course you could also stay at home, wearing protective bumper suit 24/7 (and can still die from any number of things anyway). At some point there's a tradeoff people make. Some people make it where the tradeoff slider says "motorcycle", rather than stop at "car". And I'm not talking…

> Same with a car, just less so. So not the same? > Of course you could also stay at home, wearing protective bumper suit 24/7 Quite an extreme and useless comparison. There's a large spectrum of transportation and entertainment options between motorcycle riding and home bound bumper suit at all times.

>So not the same?

Does it have to be the same?

Do you discourage people from riding bicycles too, lest they be hit?

Re: Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Post by coldtea »

qmr wrote: post #198
embedding-shape wrote: post #157

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Most crashes, but not all, are accidents. I think I'm talking about accidents, not crashes.

Someone is always at fault. Look into auto lobby and this "accident" term history. Use the language of accountability.

>Someone is always at fault.

Only by a very lose definition of "fault", chosen for moralistic purposes.

Of course people saying what you say, if it happens to them, they'll suddenly swear theirs was a real accident.

Re: Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Post by coldtea »

newaccountman2 wrote: post #151
klibertp wrote: post #120

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Probably depends on the locale. In Europe, riding a moped in a big city is a way to drastically cut your commute compared to driving a car. It's not exactly dangerous when all the other road users are moving at 5m/min, and being able to just skip all the traffic jams is a godsend. By car, my trip to the office was about 45min - it was 15min on a moped, a stop at a shop for some snacks included. And that's with riding…

oh interesting, I should have realized it was fairly common in Europe

In Europe many people have both, and use the motorcycle to go to work/etc because it's faster and more convenient, especially in a larger city with traffic jams.

Re: Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Post by 13hours »

Many very interesting stories here of people that took similar paths. As the parent of a teenager that used to be an absolute model student, but recently (last year) started rebellious behaviour, tanking their academics with it, I'm curious how many with similar stories think they would have or could have taken a different path with better or different parental support?

We're trying our very best to support and guide without shaming. The difficult part is the influence of friends, specifically a boyfriend, that were convinced led to much of this. Forbidding the relationship is not going to have the right effect. So we're trying to manage it with rules to try and prevent the opportunity to make bad decisions. And talking a lot about honesty, values and respect. There's still respect in our relationship, and I feel that's the key for us to be able to support her.

Re: Building from zero after addiction, prison, and a felony

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Post by zuzululu »

xarope wrote: post #270
zuzululu wrote: post #23

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part of this I understand is survival. And I understand why you do this. The other part of this is why it's so frustrating for me to find the right person. Everybody's resume looks perfect for the role, and I have to waste 30-45 mins digging into their actual experience. You have done yourself a great disservice by wasting that time sitting in an interview you were not qualified for, and worse still I always feel the…

I understand your frustration and i hope to have a earnest discussion on this.

One of the 3 jobs require hiring other developers. I don't find it difficult at all. I have my own intuition and technique I rely on. If you are wasting 30~45 minutes on a resume, you are probably chasing the wrong signals. It's not my fault.

> You have done yourself a great disservice by wasting that time sitting in an interview you were not qualified for, and worse still I always feel there are other, more qualified people, who I have missed/passed over their resume since it wasn't AI tuned.

How can I know if I meet the prospective employee's criteria or not before I do the interview? How am I to be held reliable for other people's failure to make themselves visible or your frankly your lack of skill at recruiment?

It's convenient to blame AI for any shortcomings these days but if you don't know what you are doing, you were always going to reach for something external something imagined to deflect your own areas that need improvement.

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Post by mettamage »

dadpassthebeans wrote: post #244
chamomeal wrote: post #215

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That is an absolutely crazy story, I hope you have it written down somewhere besides HN comments lol

(Lost my passwd to my throwaway so i had to create another, sorry) Nah, just throwaway here. A few tech/work friends know of it, most of my non-tech friends know of my background but most them have crazier stories. And those folks dont really understand what I do for work or how much money I'm making. I'm too much of a dirt bag for the tech world and too much of a yuppie for my old punk friends. Its double-sided impo…

I appreciate the stories. To some extent they are inspiring to read.

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Post by ramon156 »

qingcharles wrote: post #135
antonvs wrote: post #61

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Ironically saying "isn’t just smart— it’s important" (complete with em-dash!) and "No shortcuts. No filler. No excuses." sounds very AI-generated. Not saying it is, just pointing out how messed up the world we live in now is. But... was it?

"You're absolutely right for pushing back on that!"

I want a "You're absolutely right to be upset!" printed on a shirt.

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Post by mettamage »

Guestmodinfo wrote: post #228
user_7832 wrote: post #201

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And to whoever downvoted me, I've successfully "diagnosed" (read - identified) multiple friends already. NDs often have decent ND-radars.

Same here, I too feel the same. I don't look as if I am neuro divergent but I am slightly and have radar for others and have begun to tell people, "that person is not late or slow in the mind but that person is simply a neuro divergent and needs to be given chance or looked at differently" lot of neuro divergents have been discriminated against in the past. My one professor used to ask me, "Are you on drugs". No I ne…

Haha, I can relate. I was once straight up asked if I used cocaine by my caretakers when I was 16. I was simply sleep deprived. And needed sleep bad. My neurodivergence mostly manifests as a sleep problem, in terms of it being a clinical issue. In other areas of life they are simply quirks.

To get the whole discussion of “I have seen this behavior before. I know an addict when I see one”. It was embarrassing. And then to hear “you’re 16 and acting out your puberty”.

Adults are silly sometimes when they are convinced of something, and fucking persistent.

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Post by hnlmorg »

shrubby wrote: post #254
TylerE wrote: post #245

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Without the first beer there is no last beer.

This. In a healthy society there would be no need for intoxicants with so severe harms (BBC list for substances by harm is a good reference) and thus no exposure for a addictive substance. Now the norm decides that, almost without exceptions, we must all be exposed.

What’s healthy isn’t complete abstinence, it’s moderation.

This is true of coffee, sugar, alcohol, social gatherings, work, play, and everything else in life.

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Post by Falimonda »

mothballed wrote: post #133
Falimonda wrote: post #131

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The risk is much much much higher with a motorcycle - especially in the US where most car drivers have next to zero experience sharing the road with motorcycles let alone driving a motorcycle. Saying it's the same thing is absurd here. - Licensed motorcycle driver

Vs what though? We're talking about a felon and addict channeling their risk-taking energy. I rode motorcycles exclusively as my transport in my 20s and it was one of the main things that checked use of intoxicants. You need your balance for a motorcycle and it uses the same risk-taking energy that many people would otherwise channel into drugs and destruction. That is to say, those comparing car v motorcycle are doi…

Motorcycles are not sobriety tests...
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