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I agree with this so much. You really do need to treat your friends as a revolving/evolving Rolodex. Get rid of “friends”/people who hold you back. Their problems are not your problems. You have your own goal in life. They can deal with their own problems, and maturity is realizing it’s up to the individual to change. Get friends in your life who add value to your life. These will be hard to find, but once you have s…
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I suspect very strongly that we live in a "post-community" world. There are no communities, and haven't been for a very long time, likely since before your grandparents were in their prime. We have any number of entities that function as surrogate communities, but without the benefits the real thing would provide. Quite often though, they have many of the disadvtanges of those, plus a few extra. The community you're…
Well, we have it mildly solved on the internet layer (hackernews). Issue is these bonds aren't very strong because they're not supported by physical space (can't use evolutionary hardwiring). This is why I think network states are good because they're a projection of community on the internet layer onto the physical layer. I think community is very important, and the world will tend more and more towards happiness (g…
As someone who has “reinvented” myself more than once (mostly due to school/job transfers), it seems what wasn’t said is equally if not more important. Rarely can you “find your people” without letting other people go. The unspoken truth in this article is that it’s just as important to be willing to let go of relationships that aren’t helping you grow. Easier said than done. Whether it’s the negative influence of a…
As Kermit the Frog in his Maryland commencement speech said, Jim Henson took people for "what they are": https://www.youtube.com/live/hLFa8zGeotI?feature=shared&t=74... Do NOT "fake it until you make it". Be yourself. And find people who accept you as you are.
> The first step is to realize that the subway stops here. Up to this point in life, most of you have been rolling on train tracks. Elementary school, middle school, high school, college—it was always clear what the next stop was. In the process you've been trained to believe something that’s not true: that all of life is train tracks. And there are some jobs where you can make it stay like train tracks if you want,…
It's hard to start a business with minimal life experience. All the more so a startup kind of business. There are lots of things to look for, to pay attention to - that you were carefully (?, more like randomly) sheltered from until then.
I agree with this so much. You really do need to treat your friends as a revolving/evolving Rolodex. Get rid of “friends”/people who hold you back. Their problems are not your problems. You have your own goal in life. They can deal with their own problems, and maturity is realizing it’s up to the individual to change. Get friends in your life who add value to your life. These will be hard to find, but once you have s…
We don't have a culture of connecting people.
People choose to fall in some doom loops or waste their time doing anything but making connections. That’s their problem.
For everyone else, there’s work, meetup/luma, discords, and so on to connect.
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In my view, this tends to go out the window when randoms on the Internet share hints and suggestions in the first place. This is known in some parts as “vague booking” which is intended to possibly elicit sympathy or a similar reaction, with the intent of getting a feeling out of their system. A good example of this would be a Facebook post similar to the following: “oh wooow I had such a hard day! Can’t believe what…
Eh. Not "vague-booking." Interesting appellation. Hadn't heard of it before. There's fairly practical reasons for not disclosing these specifics in public. Some folks here would probably understand, quite well. Like I said, I think that people oversharing on TikTok has gotten folks thinking that they have the authority to demand intimacy from anyone they want. If someone doesn't share their secrets, then "what are th…
Your reply also has a subtweet style to it - but I sure there's a better word to describe it!
Anyway, look at us now not talking about the subject... Because it was only vaguely referenced in the first place.
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Eh. Not "vague-booking." Interesting appellation. Hadn't heard of it before. There's fairly practical reasons for not disclosing these specifics in public. Some folks here would probably understand, quite well. Like I said, I think that people oversharing on TikTok has gotten folks thinking that they have the authority to demand intimacy from anyone they want. If someone doesn't share their secrets, then "what are th…
I hadn't heard of "Vaguebooking" either but intuitively recognised it immediately. That nails this thread really. Your reply also has a subtweet style to it - but I sure there's a better word to describe it! Anyway, look at us now not talking about the subject... Because it was only vaguely referenced in the first place.
To be fair, though, some of the most interesting stuff on HN, comes from “diverted” comment threads (not this one, though).
Of course, I’ve always made it easy to get in touch with me. I would assume that if someone was legitimately interested in the backstory (as opposed to some prurient interest in public grandstanding), they could contact me directly. It has happened, in the past.
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I hadn't heard of "Vaguebooking" either but intuitively recognised it immediately. That nails this thread really. Your reply also has a subtweet style to it - but I sure there's a better word to describe it! Anyway, look at us now not talking about the subject... Because it was only vaguely referenced in the first place.
Exactly. To be fair, though, some of the most interesting stuff on HN, comes from “diverted” comment threads (not this one, though). Of course, I’ve always made it easy to get in touch with me. I would assume that if someone was legitimately interested in the backstory (as opposed to some prurient interest in public grandstanding), they could contact me directly. It has happened, in the past.
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I hadn't heard of "Vaguebooking" either but intuitively recognised it immediately. That nails this thread really. Your reply also has a subtweet style to it - but I sure there's a better word to describe it! Anyway, look at us now not talking about the subject... Because it was only vaguely referenced in the first place.
Exactly. To be fair, though, some of the most interesting stuff on HN, comes from “diverted” comment threads (not this one, though). Of course, I’ve always made it easy to get in touch with me. I would assume that if someone was legitimately interested in the backstory (as opposed to some prurient interest in public grandstanding), they could contact me directly. It has happened, in the past.
HNers are normally open to discussing what they themselves post about. I think we can agree to leave the vaguebooking to the sulky teens on FB.