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Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by joostdecock »

larodi wrote: post #258
nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

Dropped FB for HN in 2017... and eventually I find myself now again on X for some #genaury stuff which is basically nowhere else to find. Happily most reasonable tech stuff lists on HN, some interesting stuff on MR, both being more-or-less a social network (of sorts) in a 90s disguise. Conventional media can be ok for casual reading/scrolling, but feels increasingly out-of-touch. Interestingly these days cnn, bbc, dw…

> some interesting stuff on MR

I'm drawing a blank for MR. What does it stand for?

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by EVa5I7bHFq9mnYK »

jader201 wrote: post #267
EVa5I7bHFq9mnYK wrote: post #257

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I was applying for a job once and recruiter told me I need to have at least 100 Facebook friends to be hired. Played Mafia for a couple of days and got 400 "friends". Was hired and HR presented me at the company meeting as a social media star)

This sounds made up. I’m not saying it is, just that it’s so bizarre, it’s literally unbelievable. Like something The Onion would write.

That's true and happened in 2011. Social media was AI of the day.

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by mariusor »

Over2Chars wrote: post #155

How about a simple rule of thumb: you have to actually meet or talk with a "facebook friend" (every month or more) or else delete/unfriend them . If after a few months you have zero "facebook friends" nuke the account. Internet updates are no substitute for good old meat space.

Tell me you're young without telling me you're young. Friendships are more than just meat space meetings. Children, moving countries, crazy work schedules are all reasons that can prevent you being in the physical presence o your friends. Does not seeing them for years at a time make them less friends? No, not to me.

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Post by okaleniuk »

It's not about accounts, it's more about engagement. I still have my Facebook account, and I actually used it two years ago to fund my gym trainer and tell him I couldn't come.

Social media is a reality one can't simply ignore completely. One can complicatedly ignore it though to some level of success. For me, the minimal rules are: don't write on reddit, don't read on linkedin. Don't touch anything else. The orange site is ok-ish.

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Post by Whatsappsuks »

hypeatei wrote: post #88
nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

> Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on This doesn't really seem that important if your only method of knowing this was a post blasted to hundreds (or thousands) of people. Or, to put it another way: if you mattered, you would've gotten a direct message or call from them. I'd argue that social media has normalized keeping up with people who aren't supposed to b…

Agreed. I also went through it and have found no difficulty with throwing away Facebook, Twitter, etc and sticking to only direct or group messaging.

Some people HAVE gone through the "but I said in X group chat" like above, but it was all unimportant life events that they were happy to fill me in on there instead. All major things people told me directly. Just because I quit social media didn't mean I wasn't aware of the death of my dog from a world away within 2 minutes of it happening.

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Post by vasco »

scarface_74 wrote: post #226

I think commenters here are missing out on one beneficial part of social media - Facebook groups and communities of interest especially private, moderated groups. Broadcast and discussions are a perfect use case for it. And people talk about how bad Facebook is, LinkedIn is far worse. Everyone is trying to be a “thought leader” and no one is genuine on it. I have a decent LinkedIn Profile with recommendations, up to…

My father and a few army friends were able to find each other and sometimes find another guy from their year through Facebook. They do big cookouts together and they started with 3 guys and progressively found more of each other and they had long lost contact. They are now great friends again and in their retirement this brings them a huge happiness.

But some people just can't fathom there's different lives too their own and throw the baby out with the bath water.

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Post by Cortex5936 »

nobodywillobsrv wrote: post #269

Anyone feel like the article is thinly disguised moral policing and rather than a post about social media it is more of a broadcast announcement of acceptable thought? Very little discussion of the actual problems with regulating speech the way the EU or Fact Checkers does. Just an implicit statement it was correct.

Yep, I got lost when he started complaining about teens and social media without discussing anything of substance. I understand where he is coming from, he is a father of 2, and is likely already busy with his family and close social circle, however for most people today, they can't grow up today without social media, you'll just isolate yourself since nobody wants to bother be your friend if they can't reach you without friction. The problem as more pointed out is related to controlling its usage, not its deletion
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