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We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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post #255

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This story takes places in Europe, so it sounds like those social safety nets aren’t really doing shit here, as OP implied.

It takes place in the UK, which many Europeans (British and non-British) do not include when they say "Europe."

Imagine Chinese saying they aren’t Asian, or Brazilians saying they aren’t South American! It would be equally as hilarious and important to ignore.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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post #46

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Non-neurotypicals can receive bad treatment from neurotypicals. But, it's also a trap to start thinking that neurotypicals are 100% intolerant. The corollary of not knowing when they're offending people, is that they also don't know when they're receiving tolerance - which is actually a lot; although it's understandable that this is not obvious.

> The corollary of not knowing when [neurotypicals are] offending people, is that they also don't know when they're receiving tolerance This assertion seemed to go unrecognized in the other replies; I really think it earns a moment of reflection.

I read the parent comment differently:

The corollary of not knowing when [non-neurotypicals are] offending people, is that they also don't know when they're receiving tolerance

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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My parents once took a struggling man in. I think he stayed with them for about three years, up until the moment I was conceived and my mom started planning for a future for our family and helped him get into a housing project. For all of my life before adulthood this man would show up once in a while on his racing bike for coffee, talk and proceed to stay for dinner. He was kind, funny and a tidbit strange. His life…

As a listener and big fan of the Heavyweight podcast, I think they'd love to help you find him. That is if you're ok with sharing your story to the general public.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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I read stories like these and it inspires me to think a bit deeper about things. Recently I told a friend that a good compass in one’s life is to seek out what gives you a lump in your throat, the rest are just words. Merry Christmas friends.

> "A good compass in one’s life is to seek out what gives you a lump in your throat".

This is a such a great outlook towards living life.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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post #255

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It takes place in the UK, which many Europeans (British and non-British) do not include when they say "Europe."

Imagine Chinese saying they aren’t Asian, or Brazilians saying they aren’t South American! It would be equally as hilarious and important to ignore.

The UK in general is left out when talking about Europe or the EU because of a mix of historical behaviour and geography (i.e. not on the continent).

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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post #255

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It takes place in the UK, which many Europeans (British and non-British) do not include when they say "Europe."

Imagine Chinese saying they aren’t Asian, or Brazilians saying they aren’t South American! It would be equally as hilarious and important to ignore.

Americas do it themselves. Imagine Americans (and they don't live in Asia, so have no right) saying Iranian Iraqi Saudis are not Asians.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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post #242

Here in Belgium there's a village that's famous for doing this. Currently there's about 100 people there who are living with another family. https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gezinsverpleging_(Geel) If you translate you can read about it.

Since you're from the "local" area (Belgium), do you happen to know why the numbers have declined over the years? From this article [1] it seemed like it was hugely popular pre-WWII (3,750) with that article quoting 500 in the modern era. Less acceptable currently, other alternatives? Still seems famous and popular, just not quite as much as it used to be. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Geel#A_model_of_psychiatric…

Another possiblity is the reduced number of housewives; who would largely have been the ones supporting this effort

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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That’s an easy cop-out and disagree as an European with stronger social nets. But yes this is still a heart warming story.

This story takes places in Europe, so it sounds like those social safety nets aren’t really doing shit here, as OP implied.

And how were America's social nets for, say an Autistic person, in 1975? ;3
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