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On the other hand an extremely shy introvert such as myself might experience things like social media and dating apps having a positive effect on their in-person social life. This is when social media was actually used for more than keeping up with influencers.
you can be shy and still find community with like minded people
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All good points. Work from home isn’t helping us any either. People typically meet their partners at work.
Most of my working life I've worked with grizzled old dudes. I think thats the case for a lot of other men too.
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True. The decline has been in effect for a while, but as for recent chages losing reproductive freedom can't be helping, nor AI and legal weed as two new ways for people to opiate themselves.
I don't think any meaningful segment of the population is using AI to "opiate" themselves. AI is a useful tool but I haven't heard of it having parasocial effects on any meaningful scale. Happy to be shown otherwise if there's data?
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I would expect it to reduce fertility because we know when you explain to girls how human reproduction actually works fewer of them are onboard because that sure looks like a traumatic experience. Oh so eventually after the other horrible side effects the parasite gets so large I have to push it out of my body through an orifice which is clearly not adequately sized for this purpose? Strong no. But the other part sou…
I think you are trying to come up with an individualistic argument for why sex ed should exist. I'm just saying that observationally, traditional societies and sub-societies with worse sex ed that are less "sexually enlightened" tend to have more sex and fertility. Maybe it has something to do with breaking taboo?
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I don't think your distinction matters at all. If you're attractive and your advances are well recieved, you will not get reported to HR. Vice versa.
You're missing the distinction. I met my wife at work but any and all propositioning happened outside the office, and not at office social events either.
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From the HR training i got from many places, harassment is what gets you in trouble with HR i.e. persisting after your advances have been rejected. Politely shooting your shot is fine, unless the target reports to you.
The distinction is creating a hostile work environment due to unwanted sexual attention.
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You follow them to the gym, do you?
Uh, only if invited? I mean do you not ever get lunch with coworkers or invite them to events you're hosting or ask if they want to see a movie or concert with you that you've been into? The important thing is to establish a positive social relationship before indicating any sort of sexual interest, so they know you as "My chill coworker John" rather than "John the guy at the office who's always staring at my tits an…
> asked me out for 'drinks' before we ever had a single conversation."
can you see the problem?
Is this really all that surprising? We have a ton of things ongoing now that we either know or suspect are big contributors to this: - the whole male loneliness epidemic - a longstanding loss of community and social organizations around the country - a pretty terrible job market for many Americans - plenty of things to be stressed or worried about. Geopolitical instability. Erosion of individual rights. The complete…
> the whole male loneliness epidemic Probably better phrased as the 'immature men epidemic'. Put responsibility where it belongs.