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Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by veunes »

nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

I guess it comes down to weighing the value of those connections against the downsides of staying on the platforms

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by veunes »

hypeatei wrote: post #88
nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

> Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on This doesn't really seem that important if your only method of knowing this was a post blasted to hundreds (or thousands) of people. Or, to put it another way: if you mattered, you would've gotten a direct message or call from them. I'd argue that social media has normalized keeping up with people who aren't supposed to b…

But it’s also nice to know what’s going on in people’s lives without needing a deep connection...

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by junto »

xyzzy4747 wrote: post #123
walrus01 wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's not all FB is doing. https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/social-media/meta-new-hate-spee... "Meta will allow its billions of social media users to accuse people of being mentally ill based on their sexuality or gender identity, among broader changes it made to its moderation policies and practices Tuesday. ... The long list of changes to the new hate speech guidelines include removing rules that forbid insults about…

>accuse people of being mentally ill based on their sexuality or gender identity But the question is, are trans people actually mentally ill objectively? It certainly doesn't help them reproduce (a form of survival) from a biological perspective, for example. This Johns Hopkins professor thinks it's mental illness: https://www.boarddocs.com/vsba/scpsva/Board.nsf/files/B8UR4X...

It’s nuanced. Something that appears to have been lost during the last years of trans hate.

> Like all DSM illnesses, one key component of depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, all of that, is that you have to be functionally impaired by it, otherwise it doesn’t count as a diagnosis

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2023/07/19/health/is-gender-dysphori...

Many trans people fought to keep it in the DSM for the simple reason that health providers would have refused treatment if it was removed.

There are many trans people that have had treatment and live perfectly happy lives. What makes many trans people unhappy is society’s persistent persecution of them in politics and media.

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by tonyedgecombe »

nradov wrote: post #200
jader201 wrote: post #193

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> I know a lack of social media meant that I have lost touch with old acquaintances completely I think that’s a feature, not a bug. Most of the life updates people post on social media are the best of the best, which is what triggers so much fomo and trying to measure up. That’s why social media makes most people feel worse about their own lives. (Not to mention all of the other garbage these platforms try to push on…

I don't know about other people but social media doesn't make me feel worse about my life. There's no fomo when my 2nd cousin in another state posts about having a baby. She's important to me, and I don't expect her to waste time emailing me directly when the rest of the extended family is all on social media.

It didn't make me feel worse but it did bring out the worst in me. It's too easy to slip into bragging about your life and how well it's going.

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Post by labster »

s1artibartfast wrote: post #245
skeeter2020 wrote: post #204

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>> For example, if a parent died... and yet people died quite often before social media; what did we do then? If the realtionship is built upon the foundation of social media, it's actually not that strong, absent social media. We'll be fine.

you would find out at church or any number of the 3rd places you shared. Yes, that may have been better, but that doesn't mean deleting social media automatically sends you back in time. Doubly so if all of your friends are still on social media and using it as the primary form of communication. Imagine deleting your email and telephone in 1999 and saying "if they were really my friend, they would drive/fly to my hou…

In 1999 we had obits and mail, just like in 1899. Of course now all of the newspapers are gone (what’s black and white and dead all over?), so notifying the local community is much harder than 25 years ago.

Also some people back then would brag about not having a TV, the same way vegans still do today.

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Post by rednafi »

I use social media in a write-only manner. I keep it around for two reasons:

- I write blogs and share them there. On multiple occasions, I’ve received job offers in my inbox. Job opportunities from acquaintances on Twitter are far better than LinkedIn DM spam.

- Staying up to date with the latest fads also teaches me what not to chase. Sometimes, the firehose is the only way to get that information.

I never had problems dropping the mic and not arguing with strangers.

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by jader201 »

EVa5I7bHFq9mnYK wrote: post #257
jjulius wrote: post #98

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This is just said from my perspective and I understand that others might not share it - Fine with me. They're acquaintances. Nobody has 200+ "friends", we have a handful of them. Is it nice to know that someone I hung out with a handful of times twenty years ago but otherwise don't really know and haven't said a word to in a decade made a big life change? Sure, I guess, but for the most part it has absolutely no bear…

I was applying for a job once and recruiter told me I need to have at least 100 Facebook friends to be hired. Played Mafia for a couple of days and got 400 "friends". Was hired and HR presented me at the company meeting as a social media star)

This sounds made up.

I’m not saying it is, just that it’s so bizarre, it’s literally unbelievable.

Like something The Onion would write.

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Post by lnsru »

4dregress wrote: post #252
scarface_74 wrote: post #226

I think commenters here are missing out on one beneficial part of social media - Facebook groups and communities of interest especially private, moderated groups. Broadcast and discussions are a perfect use case for it. And people talk about how bad Facebook is, LinkedIn is far worse. Everyone is trying to be a “thought leader” and no one is genuine on it. I have a decent LinkedIn Profile with recommendations, up to…

To me, LinkedIn is nothing more than a Job advertisement board where you open yourself up to being spammed by the recruiter hoards.

The last LinkedIn recruiter saved me from very bad job. Now I have a reasonable boss, private office, no commute time and same salary. Of course, the 20 recruiters before were bad joke.

Re: I deleted my social media accounts

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Post by nobodywillobsrv »

Anyone feel like the article is thinly disguised moral policing and rather than a post about social media it is more of a broadcast announcement of acceptable thought?

Very little discussion of the actual problems with regulating speech the way the EU or Fact Checkers does. Just an implicit statement it was correct.

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