The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell • Hacker News Board

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by weeksie » Sun, Mar 31, 2013, 3:11 PM UTC

nessus42 wrote: post #244

weeksie wrote: post #242

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You're forgetting the job vacancies that are filled when the married women leave the workforce.

And these job vacancies are gender-specific? If the 50 job vacancies must then be filled by 50 single women, then yes we now have a lot more single women in the Big Apple. If they can be filled by 25 single women and 25 single men, then the single men:women ratio is still 1:1. I guess I might buy the argument that the vacant jobs might go to 30 women and 20 men, which would back up your point.

Yeah, I probably should have expanded. Those jobs are often in fashion, journalism, and other fields that have a higher female to male ratio.

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by transitionality » Sun, Mar 31, 2013, 11:17 PM UTC

JulianMorrison wrote: post #228

transitionality wrote: post #221

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You are your own parody. You are living proof of Poe's Law. You are why feminism is now a dirty word and even successful women like Marissa Mayer don't want to be associated with it. Feel proud.

Heh. When feminism makes people - no lets not concede even that, when it makes MEN angry, it's doing its job. Having unearned, unequal power ripped away from you ought to hurt. But thankfully, as here with dating, there are things that will improve even for men when we've won.

Your claims are ridiculous and you're bigoted.

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by GFischer » Mon, Apr 01, 2013, 2:14 PM UTC

com2kid wrote: post #152

jmtame wrote: post #70

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Women will still be over messaged and men are still under messaged. People still ignore profiles in favor of photos - what does this change? Aren't you more interested in reading what somebody's friend has to say about them rather than what they're saying about themselves? Also, we have Facebook accounts (100+ friends required to join) which are not easy to replicate and we can rate limit. On OkCupid, the worst that…

100+ friends required to join? I'd be reluctant to date anyone who has 100+ friends on Facebook, that seems to me to indicate a degree of shallowness. After 7 years I have 59 and I honestly need to pare that way down. (Wow pruning my friends list, amazing how many people have closed their FB account! A good 10% of past "friends" no longer have accounts) But hey, thanks for excluding introverts! Really nice of you. My…

You're probably not thinking about all the use cases.

My girlfriend has over 400 friends (and she aggresively culled). But she was secretary for a political party, and also has a lot of "friends" from an online game ("My Fishbowl").

It's odd to find a girl with LESS than 100 facebook friends. Men in my social sphere, OTOH, don't have as many facebook friends unless they're actively trying to date through facebook itself.

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by calinet6 » Mon, Apr 01, 2013, 3:34 PM UTC

egypturnash wrote: post #211

calinet6 wrote: post #201

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Guys, seriously, spend a few years on the East coast. The girls are nice, down to earth, educated, and plentiful. And the winters will make you tough.

I dunno, man. I just wish they all could be Calfornia girls.

They are! Where do you think the smart California girls go to school? In Boston.

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by com2kid » Mon, Apr 01, 2013, 8:27 PM UTC

GFischer wrote: post #253

com2kid wrote: post #152

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100+ friends required to join? I'd be reluctant to date anyone who has 100+ friends on Facebook, that seems to me to indicate a degree of shallowness. After 7 years I have 59 and I honestly need to pare that way down. (Wow pruning my friends list, amazing how many people have closed their FB account! A good 10% of past "friends" no longer have accounts) But hey, thanks for excluding introverts! Really nice of you. My…

You're probably not thinking about all the use cases. My girlfriend has over 400 friends (and she aggresively culled). But she was secretary for a political party, and also has a lot of "friends" from an online game ("My Fishbowl"). It's odd to find a girl with LESS than 100 facebook friends. Men in my social sphere, OTOH, don't have as many facebook friends unless they're actively trying to date through facebook its…

I'll grant you that, social networking site usage is well know to differ based on gender.

But a heterosexual dating site isn't of much use if members of predominantly of one gender!

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by tarikjn » Tue, Apr 02, 2013, 2:23 AM UTC

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Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by qu4z-2 » Tue, Apr 02, 2013, 10:02 PM UTC

weeksie wrote: post #245

knowaveragejoe wrote: post #243

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I see it as a sexist comment if you're incredibly sensitive to any claim that men or women might have trivial motivations. It's unfortunate, but stereotypes don't just come into existence with precedent.

No, it's sexist if it's presuming that more women than men have trivial motivations or that those have more influence among women than men. Particularly when there are other, far less condescending and far more likely reasons for the gender skew in NYC.

I think you're right that this is not the reason for the gender skew, but I feel obligated to point out that the men might just take different actions in response to the trivial motivations.

Re: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

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Post by EvanKelly » Tue, Apr 02, 2013, 10:19 PM UTC

aaronbrethorst wrote: post #81

jonnybu wrote: post #65

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Do you not count that as her cheating on you?

No, why would I? He and I both knew that she was going on dates with more than one person. There's no scandal. In fact, I'd be a bit worried about immediate overcommitment otherwise.

I wouldn't worry about those comments (I'm sure you aren't). A lot of people don't seem to make a firm distinction between dating and relationships.

The whole reason "becoming exclusive" is a thing/phrase, is because it's acceptable and expected to "date" multiple people.