"I know what my life needs -- chaos, demands, and risk!' Been there, done that.
This trend arises from a rational analysis of tradeoffs.
The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping
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You meet people at work, you don't proposition them at work.
I don't think your distinction matters at all. If you're attractive and your advances are well recieved, you will not get reported to HR. Vice versa.
You're missing the distinction. I met my wife at work but any and all propositioning happened outside the office, and not at office social events either.
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#243Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping
#244Counterpoint, courtesy of The New York Magazine deep in the throes of silly season: https://www.thecut.com/article/ghb-doxypep-sniffies-peak-gay... To indulge my inner freshman-dorm-philosopher: It feels like every social dynamic is becoming "more of itself" as the engines of standardization and commodification churn. With the social technologies bringing the same phenomena to interpersonal relationships as the force…
We're Flanderizing ourselves? That would explain kind of a lot.
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#246Earlier quoted context omitted.
What are they going to get out of it? Everywhere you go on most campuses you're hammered with title IX messaging about how interacting with women in anything other than a cold professional way (which rarely results in sex, women don't want that) is harassment and can ruin your life. The only thing left then is getting drunk which is also a good way to ruin your life. Why would they go?
Haven’t seen this on campuses myself
I suppose you haven't spent much time on one on the past ten years then. I graduated around five years ago and it was everywhere.
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I don't think your distinction matters at all. If you're attractive and your advances are well recieved, you will not get reported to HR. Vice versa.
From the HR training i got from many places, harassment is what gets you in trouble with HR i.e. persisting after your advances have been rejected. Politely shooting your shot is fine, unless the target reports to you.
The distinction is creating a hostile work environment due to unwanted sexual attention.
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Social media and phones with cameras has made a lot of people risk adverse. When a video can hit Twitter or TikTok or Reddit about something that can ruin your life why risk it?
just don't go to Coldplay concerts!
If both you and your date are marred to other people.
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I'm not sure that's it. It's a contradiction that we have social media where people share their lives and that people are risk averse to having videos made of themselves.
It's not a contradiction: people don't share their real lives, they share a curated and often dishonest version of their lives. Obviously people don't want negative videos shared publicly.
And seeing some content commented online. Even that curated part might not sell the personality. I might even say that decent chunk of people who put their lives online are less than stable or good partner material.
Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping
#250Is this really all that surprising? We have a ton of things ongoing now that we either know or suspect are big contributors to this: - the whole male loneliness epidemic - a longstanding loss of community and social organizations around the country - a pretty terrible job market for many Americans - plenty of things to be stressed or worried about. Geopolitical instability. Erosion of individual rights. The complete…
> the whole male loneliness epidemic
Probably better phrased as the 'immature men epidemic'. Put responsibility where it belongs.