Entropic gravity is like the "brazil nut effect" [0] [1]. The idea is that if you shake a glass full of different sized nuts, the large ones will rise to the top. From what I understand, this is because larger objects have more mass, moving slower when shaked, so as the larger (brazil nuts) don't move as much relative to the smaller ones (peanuts), and because of gravity, there's a cavity left under the brazil nut wh…
Like yes, when we look at earth from incredibly far away, it's a pale blue dot. But all those oceans on it are flowing and separate from the solid ground underneath. Those large boulders on earth that would have their own (tiny) gravitational pull on their own in space are just part of earth's single gravitational force. All the airplanes in the sky are subject to the pull of the earth, but they're also a part of the gravitational pull that pulls other things to earth.
When shaking cereal, the big flakes rise to the top, but tiny bits of dust from each flake also separates and settle at the bottom. But earth, as a whole, has big bits and little bits everywhere all flowing freely. And gravity seemingly treats all those bits as a single object. But with sufficient distance between objects (e.g. different planets), it treats them separately. And with greater distance (e.g. galactic scale), it treats them as one again.