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New divorce app to help couples split assets in New York without lawyers

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Re: New divorce app to help couples split assets in New York without lawyers

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Hey I can play that game too! Are you suggesting the mother derived no benefit from the arrangement, that she continue to pay half the rent, health insurance, groceries, car insurance, gas, etc? Personally, when my wife didn't work for over a year (more like two), it did fuck all for me. I paid all of the fulltime childcare, took care of the kid before and after school, and paid every single financial interest of my…

I paid all of the fulltime childcare, took care of the kid before and after school, and paid every single financial interest of my wife except her car insurance and phone bill. So, you gave her everything but the freedom to get out of the house and the freedom to talk to people as needed, even though she wasn't working at the time? Seriously.. the first thing my spouse did when I moved overseas with them was to make…

>So, you gave her everything but the freedom to get out of the house and the freedom

No she spent pretty much the entire day out of the house pursuing her goals while I financed it and took care of the kid on top of that.

> it means your children live in part-time poverty

That's what child support is for, for the child to have money even if the parent does not. Also, alimony is a thing even for people without kids. If the father goes into poverty to pay child support nobody gives a fuck, even if that means the child ends up living in part time poverty with the father. You'll hear judges impugn people paying child support all the time because they didn't pay it while eating and putting gas in their car, somebody posted a video here of a judge doing that.

Re: New divorce app to help couples split assets in New York without lawyers

#242

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hey I can play that game too! Are you suggesting the mother derived no benefit from the arrangement, that she continue to pay half the rent, health insurance, groceries, car insurance, gas, etc? Personally, when my wife didn't work for over a year (more like two), it did fuck all for me. I paid all of the fulltime childcare, took care of the kid before and after school, and paid every single financial interest of my…

I wasn't trying to make it personal, and your situation does sound unusual; sometimes the stay-at-home partner ends up working more hours than the breadwinner spouse, who might work 40 hours at the workplace and do nothing at home. That doesn't sound like it was the case for you when your wife wasn't working. I would be quite displeased indeed if my generosity in marriage is taken to mean I would be so generous after…

I think at the societal level though there needs to be a re-adjustment of the family court so that "I will support you to pursue your own goals until whatever arbitrary I time I decide not to" does not default to "I will support you to pursue your own goals, even if you cheat on me and then ditch my ass to get filled up with cum by strangers." That is just an act of tyrannical judges using unilateral violence of the state to pursue their own hate against the generous.

>who might work 40 hours at the workplace

Lol I was working a lot more than that to support a loved but at the time dead-weight wife on top of my kid and paying for full time care workers for my kid. There was one month my fingers and wrist were in such pain from working waking to to night all day everyday I could barely work without being in constant pain.

Re: New divorce app to help couples split assets in New York without lawyers

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The issue with this seems to me to be that if you're having an amicable divorce, you don't need to spend a lot on lawyers anyway, so this doesn't really help. If you're having a contentious divorce, the other side's going to get a lawyer, so you need to get a lawyer too. There's some language on your site that suggests that this can help you understand how your various assets will be treated in a divorce, which could…

Oh, I disagree! My ex and I split amicably and looked around for a facilitator to help with the paperwork. We hired a woman who seemed like she knew what she was doing, met with her, and as we had already been separated for years, we didn't think about it much and just sat back and waited. And waited. And waited. We'd call and she'd say she was waiting on the courts. Checking online would only get back some cryptic p…

But that sounds like it has nothing to do with splitting assets, which is what this service is about. Your problem was with administrative legal tasks, and you hired someone who wasn't competent at them. You could still make the same mistake even if you were using this service.
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