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I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.
On top of this, because I've been working on getting more efficient and smart at getting things done, I get impatient when people don't aspire to the same level. I find it alienating.
I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.
I didn't go on my first date until a month before my 30th birthday. Met my eventual wife on OKCupid 18 months later, married her 2 years after that, and now have a 7 month old, ~7 years after it all started. I'll disagree with a lot of the advice given here. The pictures on online dating sites are what you make of them. I didn't even like my wife's pictures, I only messaged her because she was playing 4 truths and a…
I'd say I struggle with a few things, but I'll pick one. I overcomplicate and overthink things. If I get into something, like a new hobby, I go in to "engineer mode" and think about all the complexities of what I'm trying to do, and end up going nowhere. Or other times, I will purchase a slew of materials I don't initally need because "I'll need them later" and end up getting bored with the hobby before they ever get…
I don't like the new way of doing things. Kubernetes, node, react, terraform... Everything is more complicated and also more fragile. I feel like the software world is collectively mad and I'm sitting on the outside asking "wtf is going on?" Or maybe I'm the crazy one.
Problem is I have no way of knowing for sure, because the only means of contact I had with him was through facebook and his account is currently gone.
He's been openly contemplating taking his life for a year now or so. Normally whenever he did this I would try to be there for him but apparently that was to little, to late.
I'm still hoping he'll resurface eventually.
I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.
I didn't go on my first date until a month before my 30th birthday. Met my eventual wife on OKCupid 18 months later, married her 2 years after that, and now have a 7 month old, ~7 years after it all started. I'll disagree with a lot of the advice given here. The pictures on online dating sites are what you make of them. I didn't even like my wife's pictures, I only messaged her because she was playing 4 truths and a…
I think the real value in that material is the disillusionment. If you approach it as less a collection of cheat codes or parlor tricks and more as an illustration of how what society has told you about attraction is completely, utterly, ridiculously wrong, then you'll get a lot more out of it. More modern approaches to "pick up" reflect this.
More recent jobs I have been told I am not coding quick enough, and being grilled because something took 2X or 3X that they expected done in X. Not sure if I am slow, have slowed down, or remained the same speed and now expectations are a lot faster, or it is more transparent with time logging in JIRA being a big thing now. What I do different to other coders I have noticed when doing code reviews is I do a lot less…
One trick I've learned is to write out, (in a structured comment), what I am going to do an how I'm going to do it _before_ actually writing the code. It seems redundant but it actually forces me to do a quick think-through of what's happening. Plus distractions get a lot easier to handle: I just need to read what I've written down to reload the context. Paradoxically, I've found that this method of typing out _more…
- I have an org-mode document with a TODO list and project notes always open. Whenever I'm stuck, I'll start decomposing the task into smaller and smaller TODO items, simultaneously with doing a written brainstorm. Sometimes I'll write out a hundred lines of text, but it does help me get unstuck.
- Similar to what you mention, I frequently write a TODO list in comment as a scaffolding in the file I work on, and I then proceed to fill the space between TODO items with appropriate code.
I'm incredibly absent minded. I constantly keep forgetting/losing my cards, my wallet, my phone, bags, random stuff; somehow I break things in ways I don't understand... I just graduated from college, my life was fine so far, but I'm currently getting kicked out by my landlord because he was sick of me making trivial, small mistakes 10000 times a day. They're things like forgetting a plate on the table, forgetting to…
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This is a (less talked about, but very diagnostic) symptom of ADHD.
See, yes my friends told me I might have ADHD. But I was extremely good at school (I graduated from UC Berkeley with near 4.0) and never had a problem focusing at work/school. If I sit to study, I can do so pretty efficiently. I can also do work without much trouble. Also, I tried Adderall a couple times when I was a freshman, and its effects were almost unnoticeable to me since I usually don't have hard time focusin…
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> its effects were almost unnoticeable to me
Neurotypical people don't tend to experience Adderall as "unnoticeable." If your brain chemistry starts off in the reference range (for neurostriatal dopamine reuptake latency period), a dose of Adderall would take you out of the reference range, such that you start exhibiting signs and symptoms of mania, experiencing things such as an elevated heart rate and increased sweating. If a dose of Adderall puts you into the reference range, then you were likely outside of the range to begin with. (Note: if you consume a lot of caffeine, your baseline state would be "you having not had caffeine for a week." If you don't even remember what that's like... well, that's diagnostic for ADHD, too.)
Anyway, give this adult ADHD self-diagnosis questionnaire a read-through: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnair...
Other possibilities:
1. Despite being considered a different disease, narcolepsy is effectively treated by the same drugs that treat ADHD. Narcolepsy can cause the same symptoms you're talking about (which, again, if you think narcolepsy involves fully falling asleep, that's a misconception.)
2. Alternatively, you might have any of a number of conditions that affect sleep quality, such as obstructive sleep apnea, chronic fatigue syndrome, or even a simple nutrient deficiency. A regular doctor (who would in turn likely refer you to a sleep clinic) could help to figure this out.
3. Of course, it might be early-onset Alzheimer's... but that's actually much less likely than one of the above options.