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Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by spauldo »

palata wrote: post #227
spauldo wrote: post #223

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150 years ago, the buildings where I live were made of wood or sod and there were no cities. Fifty years before that, there were no buildings at all. The native people lived in tents, followed the buffalo herds, and the sky was their temple. The churches that have been built since were built by denominations that place less value in visual and architectural art than, for example, the Catholic or Orthodox churches. Th…

> but the way the church is used to spread hate for people who are different than them. I am not religious at all , but disliking the church because it speads hate is like disliking white persons (or whichever arbitrary criterium you want) because they are criminals: the reality is that only a minority speads hate and only a minority are criminals. A majority of religious people are good and want to do good. And it d…

Note I specifically said "is used to spread hate." There are a lot of people who use religion as a tool to push their agenda. That's especially true here in the US, where the evangelical churches are so prevalent.

It differs from church to church, of course, and it says nothing about any particular member of the congregation.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by anon7000 »

cardanome wrote: post #209
flakeoil wrote: post #205

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> You start the day in a dopamine deficit and need to start with small tasks that gives you quick wins. You can't tackle the important but absolutely boring work head on, you need to do some stimulating activities first to get the ball rolling. Sounds like just about every human being.

The difference is that neurotypical people often have a super power that is called not having a executive dysfunction. If they want to do the task, think the task is important and are able to do the task, they can just do the task. It is hard for me to even imagine that such a thing can exist but it absolutely is the case. The difference is how strict the "need" it. Like neurotypical people also benefit from working…

Exactly. Before I was diagnosed with ADHD, I was experiencing severe executive function. Just nearly no ability whatsoever to do things I wanted to do, even if they were fun. But had big impacts in terms of friendships (not actively trying to socialize very much, because planning basic get together felt insurmountable) and home life (simple chores were almost impossible to get done). And it doesn’t feel like laziness (which I think is more like you just don’t want to do the annoying thing right now), but like I really wanted and needed to do it, and just couldn’t make it happen.

ADHD meds have been almost a literal lifesaver, and the amount they make work halfway tolerable is… crucial.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by palata »

spauldo wrote: post #231
palata wrote: post #227

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> but the way the church is used to spread hate for people who are different than them. I am not religious at all , but disliking the church because it speads hate is like disliking white persons (or whichever arbitrary criterium you want) because they are criminals: the reality is that only a minority speads hate and only a minority are criminals. A majority of religious people are good and want to do good. And it d…

Note I specifically said "is used to spread hate." There are a lot of people who use religion as a tool to push their agenda. That's especially true here in the US, where the evangelical churches are so prevalent. It differs from church to church, of course, and it says nothing about any particular member of the congregation.

Right, yeah I was nitpicking a bit :-)

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by arkey »

vintermann wrote: post #211

I see two (really just one) reasons to try to learn to like something you currently don't. The first one, and the only real one, is to get closer to other people. Someone you like, who you want to understand, and maybe more like. Someone it's worth becoming at least a slightly different person for, in terms of how you approach the world. The second reason is boredom. It's actually just the first reason in disguise. B…

What about because something is objectively good for you?

For example, you could learn to like fermented foods (if you don't) because they are very healthy for you.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by arkey »

zwnow wrote: post #164
carlosjobim wrote: post #113

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I've met several people in my life that are like you, at least from what it sounds like in the description you give. Constantly anger and bitter. Probably for good reason, at least initially. And these people were smart people, hard working, honest. But here's the secret: If you behave like this, then people will only interact with you when they want something from you, leading to an even more bitterness and unfriend…

This advice basically is "be fake and people will eventually like you" which is one of the reasons im constantly pissed off about other people. I respect authenticity and I do not need people in my life preferring a version of me that's not authentic. Im content with being alone a lot, its preferable for me to having a lot of acquaintances. I have a good circle of friends which is enough.

You don't need to be fake in order to be nice. Become nice, then you won't have to fake it.

One way of becoming nice is to act nice. A nice person is a person who acts nice towards other people.

You can act different than how you feel, and that is not being fake, it's being nice.

If we all acted how we felt, we'd all be dead already.

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