Having to do the same conversation again and again is just tiresome.
What really happens inside a dating app
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Re: What really happens inside a dating app
#232Earlier quoted context omitted.
It does seem like there are a lot of hidden assumptions here. Is the man who gets less matches really more likely to want a relationship rather than sex, or is he faking that opinion because he doesn't think he has options and thinks lying will get him more matches. My assumption would be someone who changes their mind on what they want based on availability of choices would probably not be a good relationship partne…
You're thinking about it wrong. Any guy you meet who struggles with women is generally going to be looking for a long-term relationship. Starving men don't toss fish back into the water.
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#233> To me, if you are a guy on a dating app and your pictures are not taken by a professional photographer then you are losing your time, and if you are paying you are also throwing your money. Don't do this. You need good pictures that convey attractiveness (looks, as well as personality). Using professional photos conveys neediness & a level of desperation hidden under a shell of an ego the shot tries to portray. So…
My experience was different, it was more than a few years ago, but when I used it professional photo won by long shot. At the time there was an algorithm that would put your best picture first depending on like/dislike ratio. Some things I thought is that firstly no one knows you took those for this specific use case, they don't even assume that. Second is that it still indicates status in a sense that you had the money to spare to do it, the thought and time to go for it and possibly a good reason out of the app of needing that professional photo for some purpose. I didn't have mirror selfies, I thought I had what I consider well balanced set of photos showing different activities, etc.
Re: What really happens inside a dating app
#234Earlier quoted context omitted.
sounds like you're swiping through people inyour area faster than they join?
I'm a digital nomad and changing locations frequently, so I have actually tried this A/B test a couple times when arriving in a brand new city. Same results.
The author pointed out in the article that users who join are shown to users who have been on the platform the longest and are thus more likely to provide likes because they are more desperate.
Re: What really happens inside a dating app
#235My anecdotal user-end data-science-ish story about dating apps: A few years back I was single and on Hinge a fair amount. If you used Hinge back then, you'll remember some key differences between the platform and other dating apps: 1) when you "like"'d someone, you'd have to comment on a specific part of their profile (a photo, a prompt answer, etc), 2) these likes showed up in their inbox, independent of whether the…
It really highlights that volume of interactions is the issue that dating apps are failing to solve.
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#236There are a lot of dating apps out there with very different audiences. I think the mistake made here is generalizing the conclusions for all these apps. Women date differently than men. And not always with men. Or only with certain types of men.
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#237Retention is a terrible metric for a dating app. The "perfect" dating app would have a 0% retention rate since the first person you meet would be your "ideal partner". It's tantamount to measuring a hospital's performance by it's retention rate.
This is mentioned in the article:
> I don't think retention is a good metric for a dating app, unfortunately that's how VC evaluate performance of B2C apps. When we think about dating it is more about quality than quantity.
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#238It's funny because you can tell they barely discussed with actual girls:
> they are used to receiving a lot of likes, so you have to show them they get liked
They hate that, most girls registering on Tinder get 1000 likes in a week.
> Dating fatigue is bullshit
See last point
> Having a profile doesn't impact the app experience
That's what changed the game, nobody bothers on Tinder because it's not mandatory whereas it works very well on Hinge.
Re: What really happens inside a dating app
#239Earlier quoted context omitted.
> For girls you need to lower your standards and force you to go on a date with guys that you dont have the flame for (it is actually very hard to do that for a girl, very very hard) I kind of didn't understand the logic behind how he got there. According to the article women get more matches then they know what to do with. Why would lowering your standards in such an environment be a good strategy?
Because if you only like the hot guys, you only match with guys that everyone else likes too, and who just want sex.
There is simply no incentive for such behavior. The person always hopes for the best (the hot guy will choose me over all those who like him). And what about the worst case? Sex with hot guys? Sounds like a very solid strategy to me.
Re: What really happens inside a dating app
#240Retention is a terrible metric for a dating app. The "perfect" dating app would have a 0% retention rate since the first person you meet would be your "ideal partner". It's tantamount to measuring a hospital's performance by it's retention rate.
For long-term relationships, yes. For the people that exclusively use them for hookups and similar, those will "always" be there.