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Let's make your examples actually match the structure I set up. You've created some weird analogies that don't relate. A: I want to take your purse. B: If you take my purse, I will kill you. If A continues to try and take the purse, A is obviously the agitator. A: I want to leave you. B: If you leave, I will kill you. We agree B is a monster here, and this is a police matter, not global politics. Maybe we can create…
You flipped my first example. I said A said "I don't want to give you my purse" B says "give me your purse or I will shoot you". And I like how the only example you can think of where the word "agitator" flows well is when someone is trying to stop two consenting adults from having sex. Because clearly the person B on your last example is an asshole who is wrong, and you're using "agitator" to just mean "willing to i…
B isn't trying to take something from A. A is trying to woo (something near B) and B is promising consequences.
It no longer has anything to do about who is right, or what is right... that black and white right and wrong are no longer relevant.
If B is willing to back up the claims, A has to seriously consider their choices.
It's pretty close to the same in my example with the cousin... It doesn't matter if B is an asshole or is wrong, what does that have to do with anything?
The funny thing is, I don't think I'm even taking a position on the actual argument... I just think there's so much narrative control that many aren't even capable of considering alternative explanations.