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Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by ProjectArcturis »

guerrilla wrote: post #166
jonnybgood wrote: post #135

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why is that rule unfortunate? Why would someone date or hookup with someone they're not physically attracted to?

This kind of thing is what they're talking about. > It was determined that the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men [1]. https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...

So, this guy set up a fake profile and interviewed women who matched with him, without disclosing he was doing research? Ethics aside, he doesn't discuss his methodology at all. How did these interviews turn into a Gini curve? How could they, without some heroic statistical assumptions?

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Post by Mezzie »

tarboreus wrote: post #89
hvdijk wrote: post #30

From Tinder's ToS: > Tinder may terminate your account at any time without notice if it believes that you have violated this Agreement. Upon such termination, you will not be entitled to any refund for purchases. > For residents of the Republic of Korea, except in the case [...], we will without delay notify you of the reason for taking the relevant step. They openly say in advance that they'll ban users who they thi…

I'm not single and haven't been fora long time, but my understanding is that if you're single you can't really opt out of these apps, practically speaking. Even the norms around dating, picking people up in bars, etc. are changing because of these apps, so it's harder to find people in the real world. Not impossible, obviously, but getting banned from Tinder is kind of a big deal. (Also all these apps are owned by th…

If you're gay, this is true. Especially if you don't live in a large city.

I've just given up on finding a wife/partner. My options are just... bad.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by jwong_ »

88840-8855 wrote: post #210
canadaduane wrote: post #179

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I was banned for trying to create a 2nd account for my business.

That is great. Why would you have a "business" account on tinder?

Grandparent mentions IG, so assuming they created a business IG account.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by emacsen »

hdjjhhvvhga wrote: post #204
emacsen wrote: post #140

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I don't know what happened in this situation, but generally refunding money for TOS violations is a bad idea. Let me explain why. Imagine that Alice runs a service where you can send people greeting cards. Bob decides he's going to use this service to cause trouble and instead of normal greeting cards, he sends people messages with hate speech, such as their race, their religion, says he hoped they get cancer, and so…

> I don't know what happened in this situation, but generally refunding money for TOS violations is a bad idea. You can learn the article and learn what happened. We are not talking about things in general, but about this particular situation. Basically, it's pure theft. But since the amount is so low, nobody will sue them. In this way they can scam thousands of people and go unpunished.

There's nothing in the article indicating why he was banned. They say he violated the ToS. He says he didn't. Maybe it was a false positive, but we don't have enough information to know what happened.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by ProjectArcturis »

sebastianconcpt wrote: post #180
sebastianconcpt wrote: post #137

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It's funny how raw red pill truths get downvoted here. Some seem to prefer to send technical brutal honesty about the current state of sexual market under the rug.

It could be the app, or it could be that women can easily smell the scent of desperation, entitlement, and resentment wafting off of you.

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Post by Quarrelsome »

mrep wrote: post #101
Quarrelsome wrote: post #51

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FWIW if you're not paying then you're not being shown to anyone outside of maybe the first 24 hours.

I cannot say for tinder, but I just opened bumble for the first time in weeks and apparently I have 50+ likes.

Tindr is known to be particularly bad. idk about Bumble.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by HumanReadable »

I got permabanned when I tried logging in from my phone with oss android installed. In Tinder's defense I imagine my phone's system might have looked similar to that of spammers leading to a false-positive, so I don't mind the ban itself.

What I do mind was that their official stance is that they don't reverse bans for any reason. Creating a new account is against their terms of service, so in theory I am locked out of one of the primary ways my generation finds partners.

In the country I live, the competitors don't have user bases nearly large enough to compete so Tinder is effectively a monopoly. With Tinder's enormous market-power comes great responsibility, and they have in my eyes failed to live up to it.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by Rudism »

88840-8855 wrote: post #210
canadaduane wrote: post #179

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I was banned for trying to create a 2nd account for my business.

That is great. Why would you have a "business" account on tinder?

The comment you're replying to was responding to another comment relaying an experience with an Instagram ban, not Tinder.

Though the idea of a business making an account on Tinder did give me a chuckle.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by fault1 »

jefftk wrote: post #45

This is presented as a problem with "big tech", but I don't think most people would consider Tinder (Match Group) to be big tech? Instead, this kind of problem where you get flagged with no explanation or recourse seems to be common to consumer tech of all but the smallest scale. It's just very expensive to provide high quality individual support.

Match is a small part of IAC, no?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IAC_(company)

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by endofreach »

zionic wrote: post #198
bigwheeler wrote: post #129

I just lost my IG account after having it for literally a decade. Short story: I thought my engagement was low, so I manually went through my not-very-large follower list (2400 or so) in the IG app, identified about 100 accounts that I thought were bots (accounts that were following 6000+ people), and then went to each one and removed them as a follower. I made it about 40 in when suddenly I got meaningless errors, l…

>All of the avenues to contact Instagram are meaningless and don’t lead anywhere. I feel you. I got permabanned from tinder when I emailed their support asking how the verification process worked with couples. They replied with a ban notice and I was confused, turns out couples profiles are against Tinders T&C. I hadn't actually done ANYTHING to violate their T&C in-app yet, just asking their support about it was eno…

The monopoly on dating is definitely not tinder… it is: real life.
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