What to Do When a Loved One Is Severely Depressed • Hacker News Board

Re: What to Do When a Loved One Is Severely Depressed

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Post by lazyasciiart » Mon, Jun 11, 2018, 11:27 PM UTC

chris_wot wrote: post #143

lazyasciiart wrote: post #93

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I had a therapist once who suggested that my anxiety was the product of excessively high expectations, and I would feel better if I stopped expecting colleagues to do things like tell the truth. I quit therapy, and also quit that job. I felt much better after doing both!

So you essentially stopped having high expectations of your therapist and consequently stopped paying her :-)

Yes, and I suppose if I'd had the option of stopping the company from paying my colleagues I would have been fine with stopping my expectations of them as well :)

Re: What to Do When a Loved One Is Severely Depressed

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Post by lazyasciiart » Mon, Jun 11, 2018, 11:28 PM UTC

Alex3917 wrote: post #148

lazyasciiart wrote: post #92

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That link doesn't seem to show me any research, just a pop-science book for sale?

The files are inside the computer.

I'm assuming you've read the book, and so actually have some idea of what this 'research' it probably refers to is. If it doesn't exist outside of the book, you may have been tricked.

Re: What to Do When a Loved One Is Severely Depressed

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Post by djajshgsjja » Thu, Jun 14, 2018, 10:05 PM UTC

wglb wrote: post #230

djajshgsjja wrote: post #121

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I’m sorry for your loss. The same thing happened in my family. It gets better with time.

It gets better with time. I am not convinced that this is the case.

I can’t promise that it’s the same for everyone. But for me, the pain faded. Thinking about it still brings up some emotions, but so much else has happened since then that the loss is nowhere near the forefront of my mind.