Sadly, the only solution I know of is to use an explicit cancellation signal, and to modify ~everything to work with it. In that world, almost all async functions would need to accept a cancellation parameter of some sort, like a Go Context or like the tokio-utils CancellationToken, and explicitly check it every time they await a function. The new select!-equivalent would need to signal cancellations and then keep polling all unfinished cancellation-aware futures in a loop until they finished, and maybe immediately drop all non-aware futures to prevent futurelock. The entire Tokio API would need to be wrapped to take into account cancellation tokens, as well as any other async library you would want to use.
A lot of work, and you would need to do something if cancel-aware futures get dropped anyway. What a mess.