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The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by platevoltage »

mcphage wrote: post #195
lo_zamoyski wrote: post #161

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> Also Americans: Abstinence only! You'll get pregnant! No abortions! STDs will kill you! Men deserve sex! We're not going to teach you how your body works! I don't know what time machine you arrive on, but no one has been seriously promoting abstinence for decades, except in certain religious circles, and that's where people are having the most sex and the best sex. That's not a coincidence. They more like to be eng…

> You can't watch a movie for 5 minutes without having your face rubbed in a sex scene The frequency of sex scenes in movies has been dropping for a while.

I've never thought about this but I think you're right. I always hated these. I like having it, I don't like watching people pretend to have it.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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asdev wrote: post #8

This is all because of technology. Pre internet you could not just isolate yourself and medicate with content since there was only the television. In person communities formed organically as an effect. Those communities have now been eroded by technology. And no, technology cannot help make in person community, it's something organic that needs to happen with people.

On the other hand an extremely shy introvert such as myself might experience things like social media and dating apps having a positive effect on their in-person social life.

This is when social media was actually used for more than keeping up with influencers.

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Post by platevoltage »

amelius wrote: post #13
d4mi3n wrote: post #9

Is this really all that surprising? We have a ton of things ongoing now that we either know or suspect are big contributors to this: - the whole male loneliness epidemic - a longstanding loss of community and social organizations around the country - a pretty terrible job market for many Americans - plenty of things to be stressed or worried about. Geopolitical instability. Erosion of individual rights. The complete…

Feminism maybe? (yes controversial, more science needed)

I don't think this should be a controversial point at all. I'm also pro-feminism. If certain men want to have sex, be better men.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by platevoltage »

user____name wrote: post #70

It's a global phenomenon, I think it's just one of those inconvenient truths about women entering the workforce no longer seeing their central purpose in life being a mother and being pressured to find a desirable spouse to support her.

Does any of this reduce a woman's sex drive?

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Post by seattle_spring »

onetimeusename wrote: post #185
ryoshu wrote: post #27

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Social media and phones with cameras has made a lot of people risk adverse. When a video can hit Twitter or TikTok or Reddit about something that can ruin your life why risk it?

I'm not sure that's it. It's a contradiction that we have social media where people share their lives and that people are risk averse to having videos made of themselves.

It's not a contradiction: people don't share their real lives, they share a curated and often dishonest version of their lives. Obviously people don't want negative videos shared publicly.

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Post by bundie »

gosub100 wrote: post #205
jayceedenton wrote: post #39

It's not really surprising. Hetero sexual desire has been framed negatively for well over a decade, as at best exploitative and at worst misogynistic and perverted. Men told that if you want sex you're part of society's biggest problem, and women told that if you give in to a man's sordid desires you are being taken advantage of and subjugated. All we ever talk about is the dreaded 'power imbalance'. We've removed se…

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Post by overfeed »

fruitworks wrote: post #167
BobaFloutist wrote: post #160

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You meet people at work, you don't proposition them at work.

I don't think your distinction matters at all. If you're attractive and your advances are well recieved, you will not get reported to HR. Vice versa.

From the HR training i got from many places, harassment is what gets you in trouble with HR i.e. persisting after your advances have been rejected. Politely shooting your shot is fine, unless the target reports to you.

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Post by cma »

bgirard wrote: post #103

I'm most surprised that people used to spend 12.3 hours/week with friends. With work, errands, laundry, relationships, family I find it hard to believe. Plus anyone that's a parent to a young kid in that age range. That's socialized 2-3 hours 5 nights a week, or a long hangout on the weekend. None of my friends have that kind of time.

People had kids earlier. A one week beach vacation with parents of other kids in a shared house over spring break would be 25% of that figure. Add some selection of little league/soccer/ballet/gymnastics/church/children's theater and kid stuff might be a majority. Dinner parties, their own adult sports, rotary club, charity ball, fishing, hunting. Church and breakfast or lunch before/after with church friends alone might be a consistent 4-5 hours with friends a week. A weekly game of golf could add 3-5 hours.
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